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sewanee_angel
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Glimmer, I'll raise Ruth's ick. I'm more of a touchy type person but kisses on lips from another person's spouse crosses all sorts of lines for me.
raises hand Vikki, I'm another girl who really does want to go out with a nice (I'll add funny) guy. I've never gone out with a "bad boy."
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Vikki Pollard
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Ken, it referred to 'charisma'.
Glimmer - ICK to the Nth! Is this person English? I used to practise my swerves (to no avail) on a dear old Canadian lady who puckered up and smackered everyone who came near. Bleurgh.
<BREAKING NEWS>
I am currently exchanging e-mails with a guy from a dating site. He has just mail-flirted!
(A kiss on the end of his third mail).
Be still, my beating heart.
So tell me - is there anyone on here who finds it flattering if people blow cyber kisses at you when they have no idea what you're really like?
Mwaa mwaa everyone.
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Well I find it silly if someone sends 'X's to a woman they've never met. I seem to get silly opening lines/emails though. IRL nobody would come up to me and say things like 'Hi babe girl, beloved I believe we should hook up', etc. as if I don't really have a name, for God's sake ![[Hot and Hormonal]](icon_redface.gif) . The other extreme happens too, e.g. 'I would like to discuss process theology with you' ![[Snore]](graemlins/snore.gif) . Online nothing beats just being nice to people and taking an interest in them, I reckon. ![[Biased]](wink.gif)
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<BREAKING NEWS>
I am currently exchanging e-mails with a guy from a dating site. He has just mail-flirted!
(A kiss on the end of his third mail).
And how did you reply Vikki? If you're interested you should "see him and raise him.." up the stakes and send two or three kisses back.
![[Smile]](smile.gif) I feel I should write a book on this...I could be on Richard and Judy.
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Vikki Pollard
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Originally posted by The Lady of the Lake:
'I would like to discuss process theology with you'
Oh... that isn't a euphemism?
<thinks back to the Keswick conference and blushes>
Nah, not really - I've never been to the Keswick Conference! No, I lie - one day, in 1975.
The best flirt I ever met was Robert Runcie. He and his wife visited 'our' church in France and we all went out for a boozy lunch. It was veryhot and he kept unbuttoning his shirt and making very sweetly flirtatious remarks to me.
When he suggested we share a Passion fruit Sorbet, whilst undoing yet another shirt button and winking at me, his wife leaned across the table and said very sweetly, "Oh ROBERT dahling, what a SHAME you forgot to wear your medallion!"
He was unabashed. We shared the dessert. I have the photos to prove it (and one of Lucy on his knee playing with his pectoral cross - so much more manly than a medallion!)
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Originally posted by Sioni Sais:
Our church is huggy but not kissy. Some newcomers misunderstand but their peers ask them to watch what others do and when in Rome as it were...
As far as these ladies are concerned I recommend you take the initiative. Move towards them but on final approach move sharp left and give the luvvy "mwah" non-kiss to cheek instead, very quietly.
Good luck.
Ha. Here, everyone is kissy. It's like a head start! The first thing you do when you meet someone new at church is swap names and kiss them. I think it's a great custom.
![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
of course, it can be a double-edged sword, but i easily avoid the downside of having to kiss unattractive people by saying how frightfully british i am, and i couldn't possibly kiss a stranger.
and then you can start to read all kinds of things into the perfunctory double-sided "luvvy" kisses...
"was it me, or did she linger a little tiny bit?" kind of thing...
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The "Nice Guys Don't Get the Girl" thing reminded me of this post from one of my old sparring partners in alt.tv.buffy-v-slayer. I was rather prone to believing this but Rose certainly made me think.
Short version for those averse to clicking links - "nice guys" aren't alway nice just bad in other ways, and genuinely nice guys do get the girl but not necessarily the leggy buxom blonde of their dreams.
(None of which is true of Ken I'm sure )
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Originally posted by Exiled Youth:
Ha. Here, everyone is kissy.
Well, I was at an RC service in Belgium a few weeks ago. How I got there is another story, but the important things you need to be aware of are
1) I don't usually go to church
2) I'd never been to an RC mass before, so wasn't quite sure what to expect
3) The church of my occasional childhood attendance was a very buttoned up CoS one
4) The service was being conducted in French, of which I understood about a third, with effort.
So imagine my shock when, just at a moment when my attention had wandered, a large Belgian woman in a fur coat launched herself at me with no warning and planted a big smacking kiss on me. I nearly fainted. Then a second took me equally by surprise from the other side. The third and fourth I managed to handle with a modicum of dignity, since by that time I'd worked out what was going on.
I'm pretty sure they weren't try to flirt with me, though.
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Exiled Youth
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Originally posted by Rat:
So imagine my shock when, just at a moment when my attention had wandered, a large Belgian woman in a fur coat launched herself at me with no warning and planted a big smacking kiss on me. I nearly fainted. Then a second took me equally by surprise from the other side. The third and fourth I managed to handle with a modicum of dignity, since by that time I'd worked out what was going on.
I'm pretty sure they weren't try to flirt with me, though.
I think you might be right there....you obviously weren't "frightfully British" enough! But four kisses -- it could be flirting, it could be Belgian custom!
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Originally posted by Exiled Youth:
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Originally posted by Rat:
Then a second took me equally by surprise from the other side. The third and fourth I managed to handle with a modicum of dignity, since by that time I'd worked out what was going on.
I think you might be right there....you obviously weren't "frightfully British" enough! But four kisses -- it could be flirting, it could be Belgian custom!
Ah, I wasn't clear. It was four Belgian ladies who kissed me once each, not four kisses from one Belgian lady.
I'm not sure which would be more disconcerting to an uptight Scottish lass.
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The only time I attended an RC Mass in Belgium (again, don't ask what I was doing there) I remember no such thing. A few people in nearby pews shook hands, but of women launching themselves at me, nary a one.
So, either Rat does have a powerful affect on the Christians of the low countries, or it was just because I was at a Cathedral, where Things Are Different.
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The Lady of the Lake
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For what would discussing process theology be a euphemism ? ![[Ultra confused]](graemlins/confused2.gif)
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One solution to the kissy thing is to wear a generous slathering of very very bright lipstick. This will mark anyone who insists on kissing you on the lips.
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Yeah, but what do I tell my wife when she asks why I'm wearing very very bright lipstick?
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Janine
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You could always wear her shade, then y'all'd match.
Or, you could point out someone who smooched you and say the lipstick came from that lady insisting on kissing you during the Peace or at the door.
If it will make you feel better, you could only point out to her the men who smooch you.
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Too much beard burn.
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Originally posted by Vikki Pollard:
<BREAKING NEWS>
I am currently exchanging e-mails with a guy from a dating site. He has just mail-flirted!
(A kiss on the end of his third mail).
Be still, my beating heart.
So tell me - is there anyone on here who finds it flattering if people blow cyber kisses at you when they have no idea what you're really like?
Mwaa mwaa everyone.
I have to say, maybe it's because I love the written word so much, but I love getting an e-flirt sent my way...usually more in the form of a statement than an emotioncom....but since as a student I'm chained to this computer, it's nice when a little flattery on it comes my way.....
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Originally posted by KenWritez:
Too much beard burn.
Clearly, they do not follow the advice of one of the swimmers at my local pool, who thoughtfully instructed us bearded swimmers to use conditioner, liberally.
It works.
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Ha. Here, everyone is kissy. It's like a head start! The first thing you do when you meet someone new at church is swap names and kiss them. I think it's a great custom.
What a fantastic idea. I think shall put that into practice at my church ASAP. ![[Axe murder]](graemlins/lovedrops.gif) ![[Two face]](graemlins/scot_twoface.gif)
Which church is this a custom at? I never figured church was a great place to pull...but obviously I'm wrong!
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Vikki Pollard
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You're in the wrong country, Matt. Try France. Or even Yorkshire, come to that.
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3M Matt
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Yorkshire being a different country then huh?
By the way vikki..do you really look anything like Grace Kelly? (Go on...feed my fantasy!)
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Vikki Pollard
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Hmmm... people keep asking me that!
Well - comparing with a photo of me, I'd say the smile is very similar.
I heard she had a rather wilder - er 'Flirting Life' than me, even after her marriage.
So - the smile. That's about it, except I did once address a huge meeting in Monte Carlo...
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Originally posted by The Lady of the Lake:
Well I find it silly if someone sends 'X's to a woman they've never met. I seem to get silly opening lines/emails though. IRL nobody would come up to me and say things like 'Hi babe girl, beloved I believe we should hook up', etc. as if I don't really have a name, for God's sake .
IRL, people do come up to me and say things like that.
I usually respond with something along the lines of, "Has this approach ever actually worked?"
But I'm with you on the "X"s and "love"s from people I've never met or recently met. Usually seems to be a bad sign.
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Originally posted by The Lady of the Lake:
Well I find it silly if someone sends 'X's to a woman they've never met. I seem to get silly opening lines/emails though. IRL nobody would come up to me and say things like 'Hi babe girl, beloved I believe we should hook up', etc.
When I threw caution to the wind and put my photo on to an internet dating site last year one of the first emails I received consisted of the line,
"Hi u look pretty sexy...if you wanna".
Now, I realise I'm possibly missing the point by saying that doesn't make grammatical sense but there is something really unappealing in being chatted up with sloppy English. Or is this the reason why I am doomed to be forever Daggy, Desperate and - dare I say it - Dateless?
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The Lady of the Lake
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Originally posted by saysay:
IRL, people do come up to me and say things like that.
I usually respond with something along the lines of, "Has this approach ever actually worked?"
What an analytic put-down; rather clever.
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Originally posted by Craigmaddie:
When I threw caution to the wind and put my photo on to an internet dating site last year one of the first emails I received consisted of the line,
"Hi u look pretty sexy...if you wanna".
Now you know what street harassment is like, minus the excuses like asking for the time, asking for directions, being asked to join a religion, etc.
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there is something really unappealing in being chatted up with sloppy English.
It does make the other person sound as if their brain is going to fall out of their ears any minute.
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Vikki Pollard
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Aw Craig, this Y U dont ansa my PMs?
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Craig, it could be that was the best attempt at English by a brilliant, sexy, non-English-speaker.
Couldn't you fancy a nice cuddly close dinner for two, to try & communicate with eyes and hands and body language, hmm?
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Originally posted by Vikki Pollard:
Aw Craig, this Y U dont ansa my PMs?
Hey ill always right back 2 u viks coz u r dead cool innit!??!!
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Couldn't you fancy a nice cuddly close dinner for two, to try & communicate with eyes and hands and body language, hmm?
Hmm...or perhaps candlelight, a chilled bottle of Bollinger, and a pair of semaphore flags each. Now that's my idea of a romantic dinner for two!
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Vikki Pollard
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<sighs wistfully>
U SURE U not got olda bruv Craig?
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Originally posted by Vikki Pollard:
<sighs wistfully>
U SURE U not got olda bruv Craig?
Admit it, Viks, you're fascinated by the idea of a date conducted via semaphore, aren't you?
i can b any aj u want me 2 b babe!
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Vikki Pollard
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ooooh Xiting stuff A!
(Only flag I can find on here is ![[Help]](graemlins/help.gif) which seems appropriate. )
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Originally posted by Craigmaddie:
i can b any aj u want me 2 b babe!
Ahem. That's aj™ to y'all.
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*bump*
they do seem to be getting along well. And he speaks her language - Innit.
(No, but yeah, but kaffy stole me lager, and it's not fair, innit...)
Um I'm going to a party this weekend, can I please have a couple of tips and a cheer squad for flirting with some of the nice boys who are going to be there?
(Disclaimer - due to a) hating parties b) not having been in the market for about 18 months c) being socially incompetent I require a kick in the pants if I'm actually going to talk to any boys)
By boys, I mean men, but it sounds less scary.
thanks in advance. Now, who can lend me a hair straightener?
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Vikki Pollard
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Cee Eee Elll
Esss Teee IIIIiii
You just look 'em IN THE EYE!!!
GOooo Celsti, GOooooo Celsti!
Celsti's sweet and Celsti's cute,
Just don't mess with her toot-toot!
Gooooo Celsti, GOOOoooo Celsti!
Erm... is that enough??
Blimey, just read the last few posts on this thread.
Hey Celsti, hope you really enjoy the party. The best tip I can give for shyness is, assume the other person is as shy as you and needs putting at their ease. Think up three questions you can ask which lead to answers other than 'yes' or 'no'. For example - "How do you know (party-giver)?" "What do you do in your spare time?" etc...
Make eye contact, smile, hold your head up. After all even if the worst happened and something disastrous occurred, you never need to see them again!
What do YOU find approachable about others? Do that.
And remember my motto: Everybody's bluffing.
ENJOY!
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Another conversational ploy, once you are past the "nice day isn't it" and those Vikki mentions is to start imagining who the other people are, the conversations they are having and to what purpose).
It's nice and conspiratorial and you have to do this confidentially and quietly. It builds intimacy well, so be careful.
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Couple that with "good gossip".
You know, like how the host was such a good friend to you when you moved here, or how that fellow over there helped set up the refreshments, or brought some good music; also conspirational -- and true, if you're talking about people you know. Adds to conversational possibilities.
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Originally posted by Sioni Sais:
Another conversational ploy, once you are past the "nice day isn't it" and those Vikki mentions is to start imagining who the other people are, the conversations they are having and to what purpose).
It's nice and conspiratorial and you have to do this confidentially and quietly. It builds intimacy well, so be careful.
This is flirting?!? I do this all the time just because I think it's amusing.
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Vikki Pollard
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NOOooooooo...
...this is Celsti not being too shy to speak to anyone!
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What a wunderbar thread. Reminded me of the time at a big national conference and I was just Getting To Know Kuruman, (it was the day after the "could you help me with such and such" and the follow-up accidentally touching knees under the table ![[Eek!]](eek.gif) at post-help dinner. We got to the sharing of the peace - which was just after the "oops I've got my cuff button tangled in her hair" moment (splutter splutter oh I'm sooo embarassed ) and it came to the peace, that moment of expressing the human longing for eschatological oneness and blah blah blah and I was aiming for the air kiss one centimetre to the left of kuruman's right ear and oops.
Thwacko. ![[Razz]](tongue.gif) Smack on the smackers.
And also with you. ![[Yipee]](graemlins/spin.gif)
Now the art is to flirt, surrounded by anything from 2-8 children, 7 years later.
Anyone free to come and babysit?
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Yeah, that's the trouble, isn't it.
Successful flirting and a bit of luck, and you find yourself a few years later hoping you'll find the opportunity for the full course flirt-to-finish.
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Ah, but a few years after that...
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Originally posted by Celsti:
they do seem to be getting along well. And he speaks her language - Innit.
We do - although I do have an accent like a car exhaust dragging along tarmac. And I'm not sure if Vikki goes for men with smouldering good looks who spend their time chopping logs in their kilt and eating porridge.
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Originally posted by Celsti:
Um I'm going to a party this weekend, can I please have a couple of tips and a cheer squad for flirting with some of the nice boys who are going to be there?
Well, I'm from the "just be yourself" school but, yes, to be honest, that's a bit of a oxymoron and you can't help trying to be attractive to the other person. So, not much help there really. Just go and enjoy yourself and don't worry too much about what happens.
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Originally posted by Craigmaddie:
...although I do have an accent like a car exhaust dragging along tarmac.
<swoon...>
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And I'm not sure if Vikki goes for men with smouldering good looks who spend their time chopping logs in their kilt and eating porridge.
There's a first time for everything.
(But tell me - how long have you had logs in your kilt?! )
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Janine
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(cue Mae West-like voice...)
"Is that a log in your kilt, or are you just happy to see me?"
Mae West voice off
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Craigmaddie
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Originally posted by Vikki Pollard:
(But tell me - how long have you had logs in your kilt?! )
Since I can think of any answer that isn't off-shade, I shall maintain a dignified silence!
Speaking of kilts, when I hired Highland dress for a friend's wedding last year there was a sign in the hire shop advising customers 'for hygiene reasons' to refrain from going commando. I guess that makes sense in the same way that I wouldn't particularly wish to share underwear with strange men. But, all the same, there is still something inherently wrong with wearing underpants with the philibeg. I'm just too old to start a-changing now...
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Vikki Pollard
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And that joke wasn't off-shade?? LOL
Well at least you didn't deny anything. Or really confirm anything either.
I never really thought about my moral stance on sharing underwear with strange men. I'll have to think about it and get back to you.
So-o-oo...
...OP, anyone?
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Originally posted by Vikki Pollard:
NOOooooooo...
...this is Celsti not being too shy to speak to anyone!
Ah. Thanks.
Not exactly back to the OP, but on the subject of overcoming shyness: I was a painfully shy child, and an almost equally painfully shy teenager and young adult. I was well into my 20s before I really started to overcome it, but I'm living proof that it can be done.
The first step for me was realizing how much I didn't want to be shy and how much I did, because after all, when you've always been shy it's part of your identity, and as much trouble as it causes, it's hard to let go of something so self-defining--and then deciding that I would choose not to be shy, because after all, being shy is just no fun. But then what? My method to this day is to act as if I were not a shy person. Talking to strangers in some situations is still hard, but I decide beforehand that I am not going to let them know that I'm nervous and shy; instead I'm going to look them in the eye and smile and say "hi" and make conversation. And it works. I still have to look at myself in the mirror and give myself peptalks before I know I'm going to have to talk to people I don't know, but it's gotten easier with practice, and now people don't usually know I'm nervous about meeting them and talking with them unless I tell them.
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I couldn't agree more with Ruth's post. I've always been a shy person but I've had to attend a lot of formal functions for work over the last few years and shy isn't an option. I still have to give myself a firm pep talk every time I go to one of these things and I'm normally quaking inside. But, with practice, I've become reasonably adept at appearing to be very confident. My work colleagues simply don't believe my claims that I'm actually very shy.
The only problem, of course, is that I haven't quite overcome the whole shyness-on-dates thing. In fact, if I'm really nervous/shy, I tend to put up defensive barriers. Perhaps I need more practice on the dating front ![[Devil]](graemlins/devil.gif)
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The only problem, of course, is that I haven't quite overcome the whole shyness-on-dates thing. Perhaps I need more practice on the dating front
Ditto here. I've managed to (mostly) get over my shyness except for situations where there might be a potential for romance or flirting or a date of any sort. As soon as I feel like I have to impress, I lose any self confidence I've gained over the years. For some reason, I don't have this problem with job interviews (which is another "sell yourself" type event). It might be because I feel much more vunerable and fearful of rejection in the dating/flirting situations than in job interviews. I wonder why that is? :shrugs:
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