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Mili

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One of my uncles is facing a mental health crisis at the moment that none of us in the family saw coming, so I'm reading this article with interest and hope it can give me some insight if not hope. This article by Ben Pobjie from 'The Age' about his battles with depression and self harm is relevant.
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My guess about guys over 85 is that they're struggling with failing health and/or bereavement and loneliness. Many older people's physical health goes downhill very sharply after the death of a partner, and I imagine that mental health can be the same. Losing someone you've been used to seeing every day since you were young must be overwhelming.

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I wonder if opportunity and means play a (small) part in the difference in rate of fatal outcome, with men having both more opportunity and more ability to acquire the means?

I've suffered from episodes of moderate to severe depression all my adult life. For me, I'm most at risk when I am alone. As a mother of two primary school age children, I'm rarely alone without contrivance (which is a good thing in my case, even if it doesn't always feel like it).

And I don't think it's a coincidence that some of the most suicidal professions are those with access to the means.

I'm very lucky that I don't live in a gun-owning culture. I think if I did, I might not be here.

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quote:
Originally posted by Schroedinger's cat:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by no prophet's flag is set so...:
[qb] So maybe educate yourself before you risk offending people. It is a health issue. Rich people are no less vulnerable to MH problems than they are to any other health problem.

Again I am in the demographic, so I guess I'm offending myself too. I suppose I could have noted that my post was derived from a discussion with three of my friends, all also in the demographic.

Depression is definitely not a precondition for suicidal thoughts or behaviour, nor may mental health issues. There's something more that isn't just within the individual. It is easier to blame the individual for things, and not to consider the social and societal context. I think the term anomie describes a part of it: "breakdown of social bonds between an individual and the community". The decline of "civil society" may also influential. There is a form of alienation that I'd think would affect this group less than others.

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... and it lookes like this may be a case in point .. forget that Cornell is a rock star: if this is a suicide then it's just another middle aged male human wondering what the fuck is the meaning of life. [Tear]

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quote:
Originally posted by Erroneous Monk:

I've suffered from episodes of moderate to severe depression all my adult life. For me, I'm most at risk when I am alone.

As am I. I live alone, and 2 years ago moved away from family and friends for a "dream" job. I am now wondering if it is in my best interests to leave this job and take another closer to family and friends. I've actively discussed it with my boss, who I count as a friend here. French classes and trivia nights and bushwalking clubs help, but nights alone are still a bugger.

Heard the news on the radio Zappa. Sad. So sad.

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quote:
Originally posted by Liopleurodon:
My guess about guys over 85 is that they're struggling with failing health and/or bereavement and loneliness.

That makes good sense to me. My surprise over the rate for this group wasn't that I couldn't understand their reasons, it was more that such deaths are rarely mentioned in the news here, whereas teenage deaths are.

My mother's stepbrother, an artist, killed himself when he was in his eighties leaving behind a letter mentioning his inability to paint anymore.

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quote:
Originally posted by Zappa:
... and it lookes like this may be a case in point .. forget that Cornell is a rock star: if this is a suicide then it's just another middle aged male human wondering what the fuck is the meaning of life. [Tear]

I just came on here to say pretty much this. It's sobering, as always, to reflect on how people manage to do such a good job of masking how much devastation is apparently going on inside. I wonder if they see the stoicism as courageous and honourable, somehow. If so, this is definitely an area where a live 'coward' is better than a dead hero.

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I suspect a fair chunk of suicide is tied to the male provider role. Men traditionally gain love and respect when they provide; those who fail are often shamed - either by people around them, or by views they've internalised as children. The loss of earnings consequently hits very hard, whether it's down to the closure of mines in Wales or the economic collapse of Russia in the 1990s.

Divorce is another period which can be devastating. The founder of Fathers4Justice wrote how it was a constant (and heart-breaking) job amending their membership lists to keep up with the steady stream of suicides.

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