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Thread: Mansplaining
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M.
Ship's Spare Part
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Oh sod it. I can't remember noticing any particular 'mansplaining' when I've been talking to people. Of either sex. Perhaps I don't listen to people. And, I cannot be arsed to look up other people's experiences, because it's really not very important to me.
Thinking about it, the nearest I can remember, although it's not about any type of 'splaining', is 30-odd years ago when I was a very junior lawyer at a large company. The senior management used to hold regular review meetings and decided a lawyer should always be present. There was one man there who always called me 'dear'. Like it or not, some people are being nice when they call you things like that but he wasn't; his use of it was weaponised. So I went through one whole meeting referring to him as 'sweetheart'.
It worked in that he never spoke to me again. Nobody else ever said a dicky bird about it; I just assumed they realised what I was doing.
M.
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mousethief
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Originally posted by M.:
I cannot be arsed to look up other people's experiences, because it's really not very important to me.
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lilBuddha
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Originally posted by M.:
And, I cannot be arsed to look up other people's experiences,
You could just read the multiple women who've related experiences here. On this thread. The one you chose to comment on.
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because it's really not very important to me.
And yet you felt that you should disparage those who think it is. Without bothering to look for more. On a thread about mansplaining.
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his use of it was weaponised.
And this should at least inform you of the culture behind mansplaining. You have seen sexism work, mansplaining is a form of sexism. I am not getting the offhand dismissal of women who say they have experienced this particular form of sexism.
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Rossweisse
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Originally posted by mousethief:
Yeah, touching a woman's purse without leave is such a good idea. That wouldn't possibly be considered sexist (or illegal), would it?
What?!? I was telling them to put their own purses on their laps, of course. (They didn't specify whose they were.)
Surely you're not a manspreader, MT...?
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North East Quine
Curious beastie
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The North East Man, who had such success explaining to me why I shouldn't watch crap TV whilst ironing his shirts, has done it again.
His car was overdue a service, but he hasn't had time to organise it. I had a dental appointment and saw an opportunity to kill two birds with one stone.
I dropped the car at the garage, walked to my dentist, then walked into the city centre to do some shopping. I combined a leisurely lunch with dealing with e-mails then walked back to the garage. The return route is mostly uphill, and by that point my rucksack was heavy with shopping. Then I drove to collect my husband from work.
My fitbit said that I had walked 9 miles and the equivalent of 54 flights of stairs. I was knackered. The North East Man was concerned at how tired I was after what he considered an untaxing day. "It's not as though nine miles is a lot of walking" he said. He then mansplained how such a day wouldn't have tired him, though his explanation was entirely hypothetical as I can't remember when he would last have walked nine miles in a day. Although the point about me carrying more weight than him is, alas, only too true.
Oh noes! My useless, unfit state is losing me my husband's respect. I'd better not risk helping him out like that again.
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jacobsen
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NEQ - have you considered absenting yourself from the quarry face for a time, long enough for him to miss your organisational skills?
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North East Quine
Curious beastie
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The North East Man's own organisational skills are
genuinely impressive. Though some of his organisational calculations are based on the use of a parallel processing unit (i.e. me).
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jacobsen
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What happens when half of the parallel processing unit goes AWOL?
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