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Alikay
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Ive not been on here for years, and seem to spend all my time online these days looking for my "soulmate". Has anyone found a good website that actually helps Christians that is not full of people who are fanatical evangelicals. But just fairly rounded people who seek love. Im a bit fed up of being judged and rejected on other dating sites when people read i go to church. Any thoughts?
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TonyK
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Alikay - welcome back!
But I don't think Dead Horses is the place for your request - it's rather dark and gloomy around here, and full of people muttering and ranting about disagreeable subjects.
Heaven is where it's at for you - up you go...
Yours aye ... TonyK
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SvitlanaV2
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Originally posted by Alikay:
Ive not been on here for years, and seem to spend all my time online these days looking for my "soulmate". Has anyone found a good website that actually helps Christians that is not full of people who are fanatical evangelicals. But just fairly rounded people who seek love. Im a bit fed up of being judged and rejected on other dating sites when people read i go to church. Any thoughts?
This'll sound odd, but I once saw a dating website for 'ugly people'. I don't think you have to be 'ugly' to sign, up, just normal looking. But it might be a good idea, because the people on there are perhaps less likely to be so judgemental.
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Earwig
Pincered Beastie
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Hi Alikay, welcome back to the Ship!
Do you want to specifically date a Christian, or is someone who's not a Christian but comfortable with faith ok?
If it's the latter, I met my Mr Right on the Guardian Soulmates website. He's not a Christian but is happy that I am - although we have some great discussions/arguments sometimes! ![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
Good luck finding your Mr Right.
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Chorister
Completely Frocked
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The Ship has rather a good record for happy matches between unrestful and questioning Christians, so stick around and you never know!
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ecumaniac
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Originally posted by SvitlanaV2:
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Originally posted by Alikay:
Ive not been on here for years, and seem to spend all my time online these days looking for my "soulmate". Has anyone found a good website that actually helps Christians that is not full of people who are fanatical evangelicals. But just fairly rounded people who seek love. Im a bit fed up of being judged and rejected on other dating sites when people read i go to church. Any thoughts?
This'll sound odd, but I once saw a dating website for 'ugly people'. I don't think you have to be 'ugly' to sign, up, just normal looking. But it might be a good idea, because the people on there are perhaps less likely to be so judgemental.
That sound really awful ![[Frown]](frown.gif)
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Spiffy
Ship's WonderSheep
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Originally posted by SvitlanaV2:
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Originally posted by Alikay:
Ive not been on here for years, and seem to spend all my time online these days looking for my "soulmate". Has anyone found a good website that actually helps Christians that is not full of people who are fanatical evangelicals. But just fairly rounded people who seek love. Im a bit fed up of being judged and rejected on other dating sites when people read i go to church. Any thoughts?
This'll sound odd, but I once saw a dating website for 'ugly people'. I don't think you have to be 'ugly' to sign, up, just normal looking. But it might be a good idea, because the people on there are perhaps less likely to be so judgemental.
Nope, they're just as likely to be jerks as anyone else. People being, as one of my favorite TV shows says, "Bastard-coated bastards with bastard filling."
I've found some of the more interesting people to be on the non-Christian boards, such as those associated with some of my other hobbies. Although, I must admit, this is the only 'Christian' board I hang out on, the other ones either bounce me really quickly or bore me to tears.
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kankucho
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Hello Alikay
Mrs Kankucho and I got together via Match.com, where I had been utterly candid about my religious convictions, and was asking prospective dates/partners simply to respect them (in my previous relationship, my faith had become a divisive issue).
The future Mrs K was fine about respecting my beliefs without having any desire to convert to them and, when we started getting serious, read a 'primer' about the kind of Buddhism I practise just so she'd have an better idea of what made me tick. A few weeks later, she woke up one morning with the realisation that she'd been chanting the 'nam myo ho renge kyo' mantra in her sleep. That was eight years ago and she hasn't stopped since ![[Smile]](smile.gif) .
If you're looking for Mr Right on the internet, those who judge and reject you for being open about your beliefs are doing you a huge favour by deselecting themselves from your search. You get to keep your faith; they get to keep their judgments. Who's the loser?
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infinite_monkey
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Are there many eHarmony folks round where you are? That seems to be a decent place for folks with spiritual leanings.
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Amanda B. Reckondwythe
Dressed for Church
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There's a site called christianmingle.com that advertises on TV quite a bit. "Find God's plan for you" is their slogan. Very up-to-date of God to use the social media to arrange introductions.
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Sir Pellinore
Quester Emeritus
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Just speaking from personal experience, Alikay, do you not think it might be possible to meet someone reasonably right through your normal work? That way they don't need any pictures and they know what you're really like.
I'm sure you don't have two heads or anything remotely like that.
This may be hard to believe but there are men who look primarily for a woman with character.
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Chorister
Completely Frocked
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Meanwhile, some encouragement that it can actually happen. Sadly Church of Fools is no longer up and running in its fully-fledged form, but if it can happen there, it can happen elsewhere.....
Presumably you have tried the trusted route of joining special interest hobby groups to meet like-minded people?
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Smudgie
Ship's Barnacle
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When I saw this thread I went immediately to search Oblivion for "Tigglet's Dating Agency", but in vain. But you're right, Chorister - look at how many Ship weddings (and, indeed, Ship babies) we have had here. Emma-Louise and aj, AnnieP and Tom Day, Spike and Tina, Atlanta and Quizmaster, Auntie Doris and PaulW, and they're just the ones which immediately spring to mind.
Poor Smudgie's still all alone, mind ![[Biased]](wink.gif)
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Marvin the Martian
Interplanetary
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Originally posted by Smudgie:
But you're right, Chorister - look at how many Ship weddings (and, indeed, Ship babies) we have had here. Emma-Louise and aj, AnnieP and Tom Day, Spike and Tina, Atlanta and Quizmaster, Auntie Doris and PaulW, and they're just the ones which immediately spring to mind.
Alan+Flausa, Holly+Jono and of course Tigglet+Wairua are three others I can think of at the moment.
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Amos
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Dyfrig and 'frin--the first Ship wedding of all, I believe--like Darby and Joan they are.
Yes--I'd say you've as good a chance to meet Mr Right here as anywhere. Shipmeets help. There are a number of highly eligible single Shipmates.
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Beethoven
Ship's deaf genius
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Sean and Bronwyn, too - and that was a *very* international one! And I think PaulC and his missus whose name escapes me just at the moment.
I'd stick with being yourself and being honest about what's important to you. If someone else can't respect that, then frankly it's their problem and you're better off knowing that before it becomes a relationship issue!
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toujours gai!
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Chorister
Completely Frocked
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Originally posted by Smudgie:
Poor Smudgie's still all alone, mind
Well if you will cause all this offence.... ![[Devil]](graemlins/devil.gif)
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Hedgehog
Ship's Shortstop
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Originally posted by Smudgie:
Poor Smudgie's still all alone, mind
And this despite there once being a thread called "Hitting on Smudgie."
Alikay, I know around these parts (East Cost, USA) there is a "christian singles" website--but like Rather A Lot of the dating sites, it is slanted for the 20s-30s crowd rather than those of us (like me) who are in our 50s. I've rather given up on them.
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BalddudePeekskill
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My husband (yay for marriage equality!)and I met on Match.com. I made it very clear in my profile that I was a Christian, commited to both the message of Christianity and all of the trappings thereof. I also stated that I strongly preferred someone whose religious views were in line with mine. Despite this, I got many, many replies from people who most definitely didn't read my profile too carefully. Ultimately though, I found my match and we will be religiously married in a delightfully nose-bleed high Episcopalian service this summer. Know yourself. Don't settle for less.
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jedijudy
Organist of the Jedi Temple
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Originally posted by Beethoven:
And I think PaulC and his missus whose name escapes me just at the moment.
That would be Zandolit! (With her cute little lizard avatar!)
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Chorister
Completely Frocked
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Originally posted by Hedgehog:
like Rather A Lot of the dating sites, it is slanted for the 20s-30s crowd rather than those of us (like me) who are in our 50s. I've rather given up on them.
If you are over 50, there is a whole new world out there to explore. People might scoff at Saga and U3A (both of which have an internet presence as well as a real life one), but they are both aimed at those of older years but who are still young at heart, who want to get out there and investigate and learn stuff. I'm sure there are a lot of silver surfer romances just waiting for those with 30 good years still left in them.
And is 'Terry's Old Geezers / Gals' still going? They had a lively bulletin board all of their own, at least until a few years back.
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Beethoven
Ship's deaf genius
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Originally posted by jedijudy:
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Originally posted by Beethoven:
And I think PaulC and his missus whose name escapes me just at the moment.
That would be Zandolit! (With her cute little lizard avatar!)
Thank you - I still couldn't remember this morning, and it was starting to annoy me!
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toujours gai!
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Jen.
Godless Liberal
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Stoo and Jenny Ann
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Marvin the Martian
Interplanetary
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Originally posted by Jenny Ann:
Stoo and Jenny Ann
Bloody hell - how could I forget you guys? ![[Hot and Hormonal]](icon_redface.gif) ![[Disappointed]](graemlins/disappointed.gif)
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Jen.
Godless Liberal
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I'm easily forgettable
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Was Jenny Ann, but fancied being more minimal.
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Marvin the Martian
Interplanetary
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You're many things, Jenny, but not that!
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Stoo
Mighty Pirate
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Jack the Lass
Ship's airhead
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There's the Scottish Ship contingent too - lots of weddings and lots of PhDs (The Machine Elf and me, Alan and Flausa, derf and strathclydezero).
I actually found SoF in the first place via the profile of someone I fancied on Christian Connection (but never had the nerve to contact). I never did work out who he was on the forums (this was about 10 years ago). Most people there were very evangelical and earnest, but I did get a few fun dates out of it and learnt to flirt, so it wasn't all bad
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ChaliceGirl
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I tried eharmony and some Christian dating sites, I had no luck. What found with those sites is that if you don't have and don't want children, then you may as well not exist.
I gave up on finding "the one" years ago, I figured its just not in the cards and I moved on to other endeavors. There's a kind of peace that comes with giving up and accepting things as they are.
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Auntie Doris
Screen Goddess
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Wow. There are lots of Ship Couples when you start naming them!
Auntie Doris x
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Adeodatus
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I don't suppose there are any gay Christian dating sites, are there?
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No, I didn't think so.
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Ariston
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Originally posted by Auntie Doris:
Wow. There are lots of Ship Couples when you start naming them!
Auntie Doris x
Wait, are these couples who met on the Ship, or just have both partners on board? If it's the latter, we're leaving out quite a few!
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Ariston
Insane Unicorn
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Originally posted by Adeodatus:
I don't suppose there are any gay Christian dating sites, are there?
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No, I didn't think so.
Oh, and here ya go.
Not that it's the only one.
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Amos
Shipmate
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The ones listed all met on the Ship, AFAIK.
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ThunderBunk
Stone cold idiot
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Originally posted by AristonAstuanax:
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Originally posted by Adeodatus:
I don't suppose there are any gay Christian dating sites, are there?
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No, I didn't think so.
Oh, and here ya go.
Not that it's the only one.
...and UK members are as rare as.....
*watches for flying pigs*
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Jengie jon
Semper Reformanda
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Originally posted by AristonAstuanax:
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Originally posted by Auntie Doris:
Wow. There are lots of Ship Couples when you start naming them!
Auntie Doris x
Wait, are these couples who met on the Ship, or just have both partners on board? If it's the latter, we're leaving out quite a few!
No these are people who met on the ship, even then the list ain't complete.
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Jack the Lass
Ship's airhead
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There's chukovsky/Mr Spouse and welsh dragon/Dave the Bass to add to the met-through-the-Ship list too.
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Chorister
Completely Frocked
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quote:
Originally posted by FooloftheShip:
..and UK members are as rare as.....
*watches for flying pigs*
Well it is possible to meet people from other countries - as certain shipmates know very well.
I didn't realise Chukovsky and Mr. Spouse first met on the Ship. You learn something new every day.
I met Mr. C. at the church 'Choir and Bellringers Dating Agency and Marriage Bureau' - the most successful route in my village - certainly in the 1970s and 80s.
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Jante
Shipmate
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I met Mr Jante on Dating Direct.com- having tried Christian sites that just produced weirdos!!! With the site we used you could indicate you were a christian looking for a christian even though it wasn't a christian site. WE have been happily married nearly 6 years ![[Yipee]](graemlins/spin.gif)
Happy to chat by PM if you want
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Adeodatus
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Originally posted by AristonAstuanax:
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Originally posted by Adeodatus:
I don't suppose there are any gay Christian dating sites, are there?
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No, I didn't think so.
Oh, and here ya go.
Not that it's the only one.
Well, well, well. Who'd have thunk it?
(I was tempted to say "bugger me!" but in print it's not clear whether that's an exclamation or an invitation.)
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Qoheleth.
Semi-Sagacious One
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Originally posted by Adeodatus:
Well, well, well. Who'd have thunk it?
Just spotted someone I didn't expect to find there ....
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Surfing Madness
Shipmate
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I every so often think about using a dating sight but have no idea what I am looking for, so figure staying single is the best plan at the moment. I'm aware that part of me wouldn't want to go out with someone who wasn't a Christian, where as the other part of me is not sure it would want to go out with someone who is a Christian, which makes the whole what sort of dating sight to use an interesting question!
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Squirrel
Shipmate
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During my single years I used those ancient predecessors of online dating known as personal ads. At first I tried listing myself as "SWCM" (Single White Christian Male) but received only a handful of replies, mostly from hard-nose fundies. So I tried simply calling myself a "Liberal Christian." That stopped the fundies, but most people told me they didn't have a clue what a "liberal Christian" was.
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"Five to one."
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Sir Pellinore
Quester Emeritus
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I think, Squirrel, that's one of our problems: our own self-definitions may be inexplicable to those who read them.
I must say I'm amazed to see the people on SOF who are looking. It would appear to me that there has to be someone out there desperately seeking them.
It's a strange world.
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Squirrel
Shipmate
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Yes, I am sure there ARE people out there looking for people just like the available Shipmates. The problem is it's so damn hard to meet like-minded singles. When I was single I kept meeting either atheists or Jewish women who liked me, but would only be serious about a relationship if I'd agree to convert. (Such is the singles scene in New York). For a while I was a member of a club for Catholic college grads, but the group wasn't very active.
If I were single again (please, let it never happen!) I'd no doubt try online dating, but not on "Christian" sites, since they seem to be geared primarily towards evangelicals, which I am not. Instead I'd use the secular services, and just mention my faith briefly in my blurb. Certainly I'd turn a few women off, but they'd be poor prospects anyhow. The other thing I would consider would be alternating between my regular church and one of the congregations known about town for having a lot of singles.
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"Five to one."
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comet
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I tried a dating site once, about a year ago, based on a recommendation I read somewhere on the ship. I think I lasted about 4 days. scary stuff! The initial responses I got were good, but inevitably (within 2-3 exchanges) the men wanted to talk about sex. and were either insistent, or when I tried to steer the conversation elsewhere, just ceased to respond.
I'm no prude, but I'm not looking for a relationship based on sex. I want to talk about things beyond the contents of my pants. I don't tend to think of myself as terribly old-fashioned (maybe I'm wrong?) but it seems pretty damn tacky to talk about sex when you've first met someone. unless that someone is your gynecologist.
nowhere in my profile did I say anything about looking for hook ups; I can only guess I accidentally said things that were cues to that kind of conversation. rather than try and second guess what it was that I wrote that made men's minds run to spankings (or that I'd be okay being a "spare" for a married man!) I just deleted the account. I don't think the virtual part works for me - unless it's something that grows out of a friendship. when the whole premise of meeting people that way is the lonely hearts club, it feels forced. at least to me.
that being said, my prospects in the concrete world are not very promising, either. small little hick towns don't breed a lot of men who want to talk books or arts or philosophy . all the men in my life that I'd be compatible with are married or gay. well, or they're only interested in women who are 15 years their junior, tiny, fashionable, and naive. They're my "pals" - they tell me this. but that's not really compatible with me, anyway. because my first rule is that he has to find me irresistible!
I'm not that bothered, most of the time. I have my lonely moments. Otherwise, I'm frankly too busy to think about it too much. Plus, I think my standards are pretty ridiculously high, at this point.
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Evil Dragon Lady, Breaker of Men's Constitutions
"It's hard to be religious when certain people are never incinerated by bolts of lightning.” -Calvin
Posts: 17024 | From: halfway between Seduction and Peril | Registered: Sep 2005
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PD
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I met my wife more or less by accident on the Internet. She needed to get a message through to a friend. I did her a favour, and then we started chatting on IM as she was usually online before she went to work, when I got off work. We lived eight time zones apart. One thing led to another and we married eleven months later.
This came after several years of Christian Dating Agencies when I had more-or-less topped looking. My trouble with the CDAs was that tended to throw up the Fundies, loopy Liberals, and Catholics. The Conservative Catholic girls were the ones closest to my religious mindset, but they wanted me to 'vert. Not an option for me as somewhere deep down in my nature is an nasty little 'Orange Protestant' gene that says 'no surrender' on that one.
In the end I married a Catholic girl who had turned conservative Anglican. We concluded that we had to get married because we were reading each others minds from 7000 miles apart. To outsiders we can occasionally we can seem a bit like an alliance of Boudicca and 'Harry of Exeter' but we are very happy together.
I guess the point of this story is that you can do all the obvious things and then God does something weird on you.
PD
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Roadkill on the Information Super Highway!
My Assorted Rantings - http://www.theoldhighchurchman.blogspot.com
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Squirrel
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I've heard that a sizable percentage of the men who use internet dating sites are actually married. That would no surprise me.
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"The moral is to the physical as three is to one."
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"Five to one."
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Sir Pellinore
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Originally posted by Squirrel:
I've heard that a sizable percentage of the men who use internet dating sites are actually married. That would no surprise me.
I think several women, like comet, have been scared off many sites by various sorts of creep.
Welcome to the Internet: the new really Wild West.
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