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BessLane
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When I was 21, I had a very bad infection that I was told rendered me sterile. This was ok with me, I don't want kids. My husband doesn't want them either...

Flash forward to me being 45, and I feel weird, and I'm late - at first I think peri-menoapuse, but then I feel kind of OFF. Long story short, two store bought tests and one at the docs office say I'm preggers. My husband is on the road, and this is NOT a converasation I want to have on the phone. And this is NOT NOT NOT a situation I want to be in anyway.

I'm scared as hell, conflicted as hell and all I can say is "holy shit, really?!?"

At my age, it may be a false alarm, but crap....

Support, help, advice please....

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Lamb Chopped
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ADVICE: Give it time. There is nothing that needs to be done right this moment except to make yourself feel better (say, by calling a friend). Everyone freaks at that news, even those who expected and wanted it. Treat yourself with the same kindness and patience that you would anybody who just suddenly lost a loved one. You are in no shape to think today or probably tomorrow. Don't force yourself to. You have time. Take it.

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Hugs and support. No advice except what Lamb Chopped said, try to treat yourself gently and soothingly. Good luck with whatever you decide.

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As someone who's childless-by-choice I'm not in much of a position to offer advice either, but what Lamb Chopped said makes perfect sense to me. Look after yourself, and know that you've got prayers and support from all of us here.

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{{{{{{Bess}}}}}}

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(((Bess)))

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What everybody else has said, and hugs from me as well - (((Bess))).
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[Votive] A shock to the system in more ways than one, may God be with you and give you peace and strength.

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Been there, Bess. Turned out to be a false alarm, thanks be, but I will certainly never forget feeling like I'd been hit by a speeding semi. What LC said - and many, many hugs from me.

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BessLane
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My husband gets home tomorrow (I hope) for the weekend and I've been rehearsing the conversation in my head.

I'm already sick of being scared and sick of crying and sick of biology in general. I go Wednesday to the Ob/Gyn to get an ultrasound and blood work which, I'm told, will give me a yes or no answer.

Y'all, at my age, I'm set in my ways. It's maybe selfish, but I don't want any of my life to change. A child would be a huge huge huge change. And I'm 90% positive what my husband's reaction will be. And I'll be the 70 year old woman at some kid's college graduation.

Thanks so much for the support. My closest friend here is a man, and he's the last person I can talk to about any of this. Just pray for me...

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Yes, I would definitely keep this to yourself and your husband- you don't need the neighborhood weighing in on your private thoughts at this time.

Keeping you in my prayers. [Votive]

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Hi Bess

First of all, the (hopefully) obvious platitude....

As much as you are (quite naturally) panicking now, try to remember that the fear is worse than the reality. When your husband gets home, sit down and talk about it. I am sure that you will find that it won't be as bad as your imagination is making it to be just now.

Secondly, my Dad was into his 40's when he got married. He was nearly 50 when I was born and well past 55 when my sister was born. I also know of plenty of other people who had similarly "ancient" parents and it didn't do them any harm, either. Of course - if you ARE pregnant - it will be an enormous shock to the system for both you and your husband. But don't worry about how you will be when Junior reaches graduation. The chances are, you won't be the oldest Mum there!

Please don't let fear overcome you.

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Just adding my [Votive] too...
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And mine [Votive]

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Being childless by choice, I can understand some of what you're going through. You're in my prayers.
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We also had our son a generation later than everyone else. But that has had a hell of a lot of advantages to it. God keep you all.

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(((Bess)))

[Votive] for you, whatever you decide.

[ 04. April 2014, 16:26: Message edited by: Jane R ]

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((( Bess ))) May Christ give you his peace that passes understanding.

[ 04. April 2014, 18:27: Message edited by: churchgeek ]

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Amen. Wow, talk about a surprise.

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quote:
Originally posted by BessHiggs:

I'm already sick of being scared and sick of crying and sick of biology in general. I go Wednesday to the Ob/Gyn to get an ultrasound and blood work which, I'm told, will give me a yes or no answer.

That's good - you'll then know what you are dealing with. Not knowing is far harder.


[Votive] [Votive] for you

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[Votive] Bess [Votive]

I had a baby 4 months ago, at the age of 44, and was similarly worried about being the old granny at the school gates. I've been pleasantly surprised at how many other older mums there are, some older than me.

It's been a massive life-change, and there've been tears and tantrums along the way. But we're still here, and I wouldn't be without her. It's hard, but not impossible. Rest assured of my prayers, Bess.

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Having read your posts over the last few years, I know that you are a strong and capable women. I am very sure you will handle what ever is to come with great wisdom and grace, even as you have a holy melt down now and then. Prayers of support. [Votive]
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Thinking of you today.
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Me, too. [Votive]

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And me. [Votive]

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Here's where we are at now...

Had an extremely difficult conversation with my husband about the whole thing. Actually the first real conversation we've had about the subject since we were both in our 40's when we married and never intended to have children. The fact that I believed I was unable helped there. We decided, after a lot of talk and tears to wait until after I saw the doc to make any kind of decisions.

He left for Nashville for the week on Sunday morning, and on Sunday evening, I started having some pretty awful cramps. Monday morning, I was bleeding pretty heavy (sorry about being graphic...) and have been since then. The doc examined me, and did blood work, and I'm scheduled for an ultrasound next wedensday but she seemed pretty confident that nature was taking its course and the pregnancy was over.

I'm hoping she's right, even though that sounds horrible, but I'm also emotionally even more messed up about this whole ordeal. It's like the only reason I've got this plumbing is to make babies. And even though I don't want to make one, the idea that I may have had another human being growing inside of me - however briefly - is staggeringly huge. And then the idea that most likely, there's not one growing there any more is also huge. I'm relieved, sad, and confused. And I feel so isolated since other than my husband and my best friend, no one I can talk to and cry on knows about this. Hubby's out of town and my best friend is a man and I'm not sure how comfortable either he or I would be having a conversation about my reproductive bits. Plus, no offense to the gentlemen, but men tend to focus on "fixing" things and there's nothing about this situation that can be fixed.

So all y'all don't know how important your support has been. I can't cry on any of your shoulders, except through this flawed medium, but it really helps to know that somewhere, there are folks care and will listen and say prayers and offer good, sensible advice, and let me rage and let me mourn.

Thanks you all so very much.

(And just a couple of weeks ago, I was bragging to a buddy that my life was nice and stable and boring...that'll teach me to tempt fate [Roll Eyes] )

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I'm so sorry--what a major upset this all has been for you. Be kind to yourself, and your husband too. Will pray.

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Sending you all warmest thoughts and strength. The particulars of human pain are always so individual--I can't pretend to have experienced anything "like" your situation. And yet pain and complicated feelings are so universal--my heart reaches out to yours because of that, because I can imagine that your pain "feels like" mine.

I wonder if your male friend can be of help, then--just a person, in real time, listening to you say, "this sucks, and can't be fixed." I dunno if that kind of compassionate, non-action-oriented listening is his forte: I just know I wish you had access to it, somehow, in person, and I'm glad you find comfort in having it here. Because you do. Many are pulling for you. All the best.

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What a horrible situation, Bess. [Votive]

Give yourself time - you will have lots of hormones swilling around that will be affecting you hugely and will take a while to work through your system, so be kind to yourself.

Also, if you're losing a lot of blood the blood loss will make you feel washed out, along with the early pregnancy hormones, so be prepared to be exhausted as well as emotional.

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quote:
Originally posted by Curiosity killed ...:
What a horrible situation, Bess. [Votive]

Give yourself time - you will have lots of hormones swilling around that will be affecting you hugely and will take a while to work through your system, so be kind to yourself.

Also, if you're losing a lot of blood the blood loss will make you feel washed out, along with the early pregnancy hormones, so be prepared to be exhausted as well as emotional.

Echoing what Curiosity said, your hormones will be all over the place at the moment and your body and mind have been through a lot of trauma. Do get some time to rest, both physically and emotionally.
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Praying for you.

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Lucia

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[Votive] from me too
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quote:
Originally posted by BessHiggs:
I'm hoping she's right, even though that sounds horrible, but I'm also emotionally even more messed up about this whole ordeal. It's like the only reason I've got this plumbing is to make babies. And even though I don't want to make one, the idea that I may have had another human being growing inside of me - however briefly - is staggeringly huge. And then the idea that most likely, there's not one growing there any more is also huge. I'm relieved, sad, and confused.

You don't know me, I'm just a stranger on the internet, but I wanted to say: It's ok to be relieved. Your feelings are your feelings, and they aren't right or wrong to feel.

And in case there's anyone else reading this in any sort of similar situation, I also want to say that it's also ok to fully explore all your options. None of them will be ideal, but they are there. [Votive]

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It is totally understandable to be relieved, sad, and confused after such huge, life changing possibilities were rushing through your body and emotions.

Most of all - be kind to yourself, you have been through the mill, physically and emotionally.

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quote:
Originally posted by ecumaniac:
quote:
Originally posted by BessHiggs:
I'm hoping she's right, even though that sounds horrible, but I'm also emotionally even more messed up about this whole ordeal. It's like the only reason I've got this plumbing is to make babies. And even though I don't want to make one, the idea that I may have had another human being growing inside of me - however briefly - is staggeringly huge. And then the idea that most likely, there's not one growing there any more is also huge. I'm relieved, sad, and confused.

You don't know me, I'm just a stranger on the internet, but I wanted to say: It's ok to be relieved. Your feelings are your feelings, and they aren't right or wrong to feel.

And in case there's anyone else reading this in any sort of similar situation, I also want to say that it's also ok to fully explore all your options. None of them will be ideal, but they are there. [Votive]

THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thinking of you and yours at this time. [Votive]

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Again thank you all so much...

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Nenya
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quote:
Originally posted by Boogie:
It is totally understandable to be relieved, sad, and confused after such huge, life changing possibilities were rushing through your body and emotions.

Most of all - be kind to yourself, you have been through the mill, physically and emotionally.

[Votive] [Votive] for you.

This. I have not posted on the thread before but I have been watching and praying, and will continue to do so. [Votive]

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[Votive]

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North East Quine

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quote:
Originally posted by Curiosity killed ...:
What a horrible situation, Bess. [Votive]

Give yourself time - you will have lots of hormones swilling around that will be affecting you hugely and will take a while to work through your system, so be kind to yourself.

Also, if you're losing a lot of blood the blood loss will make you feel washed out, along with the early pregnancy hormones, so be prepared to be exhausted as well as emotional.

Yes, this. Also, hormones don't play fair and you can't predict how they will affect you. So be gentle with yourself and know that lots of us are praying for you.
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Welease Woderwick

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I'm holding you and your husband and all in the Light, Bess.

[Votive]

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Continued prayers and cyber hugs. ((((((( [Votive] ))))))))
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