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Ad Orientem
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Doesn't transvestite and crossdresser mean the same thing? If you can tell us a significant difference between the two (except that one is from Latin and the other English), pray tell us.
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Pomona
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They mean the same thing, transvestite is just considered outdated at best and pejorative at worst. 'Person who cross-dresses' is the most polite term - but the best option is just to ask someone what they prefer. Conchita is not a person who cross-dresses anyway because gender performance is different to wearing the clothes of a different gender day-to-day.
Just because something means the same as another term doesn't mean you should use it - darkie means the same as black person, still doesn't mean you should use the former.
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lilBuddha
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quote: Originally posted by Jade Constable: They mean the same thing, transvestite is just considered outdated at best and pejorative at worst. 'Person who cross-dresses' is the most polite term - but the best option is just to ask someone what they prefer. Conchita is not a person who cross-dresses anyway because gender performance is different to wearing the clothes of a different gender day-to-day.
Just because something means the same as another term doesn't mean you should use it - darkie means the same as black person, still doesn't mean you should use the former.
Um, not quite. Whilst transvestite may have become pejorative, darkie has always been. Another key difference is some people happily call themselves transvestites still. Fairly sure you will not find this to be the case with darkie.
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RuthW
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quote: Originally posted by Jade Constable: They mean the same thing, transvestite is just considered outdated at best and pejorative at worst.
Someone should tell Eddie Izzard, then, yes?
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quote: Originally posted by Jade Constable: They mean the same thing, transvestite is just considered outdated at best and pejorative at worst.
By whom is it so considered please? It is a standard term here AFAIK.
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Maybe we should check in regionally-- if anything, The way it is used around here is the exact opposite of what Jade says-- people talk about "cross dressing" when they are belittling the act (or don't know much about it), and call people "transvestites" when they are trying to be proper.
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Ariston
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quote: Originally posted by leo: quote: Originally posted by Karl: Liberal Backslider: 2ii is worth fuck all these days. Most graduate recruiters won't look at anything less than a 2i IME.
No-one gets a third any more, as long as they actually do all the coursework and sit the finals.
'These days', yet.
In the 1970s, things were different.
So that explains why people my age can't get real jobs while deadwood hired in the '70's and 80's with half our qualifications get paid to sit on their thumbs all day playing on facebook and eBay.
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Huia
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quote: Originally posted by Kelly Alves: Maybe we should check in regionally-- if anything, The way it is used around here is the exact opposite of what Jade says-- people talk about "cross dressing" when they are belittling the act (or don't know much about it), and call people "transvestites" when they are trying to be proper.
I find it really confusing. I would never set out to use a racist term, but when my sister-in-law was visiting from America I inadvertently used a term (that I had heard on National Radio here, which is government funded so usually a reliale source) which she thought was racist so she hit the roof, after that I just shut up. The thing is that I don't read a lot of American books, watch little TV and seldom go to movies so I am just not up to date with what is acceptable in that area.
I think there are probably other people like me who don't realise they may be using an offensive term. .
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So I cant describe my first date with a cross dresser, in a Ford Transit van, listening to Culture Club on a transistor radios as : Bumping uglies with a trannie, in a trannie in time to the trannie tunes on the trannie. Damn, oh for simpler times.
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quote: Originally posted by Pyx_e: So I cant describe my first date with a cross dresser, in a Ford Transit van, listening to Culture Club on a transistor radios as : Bumping uglies with a trannie, in a trannie in time to the trannie tunes on the trannie. Damn, oh for simpler times.
Were you going to Bangor?
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Firenze
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Or maybe Balls Cross?
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quote: Originally posted by RuthW: quote: Originally posted by Jade Constable: They mean the same thing, transvestite is just considered outdated at best and pejorative at worst.
Someone should tell Eddie Izzard, then, yes?
And Frank'n'Furter.
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The Phantom Flan Flinger
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quote: Originally posted by Kelly Alves: Maybe we should check in regionally-- if anything, The way it is used around here is the exact opposite of what Jade says-- people talk about "cross dressing" when they are belittling the act (or don't know much about it), and call people "transvestites" when they are trying to be proper.
I'd have thought it would be the other way round.
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quote: Originally posted by Erroneous Monk: quote: Originally posted by Pyx_e: So I cant describe my first date with a cross dresser, in a Ford Transit van, listening to Culture Club on a transistor radios as : Bumping uglies with a trannie, in a trannie in time to the trannie tunes on the trannie. Damn, oh for simpler times.
Were you going to Bangor?
More likely Tranmere.
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Matt Black
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Midweek on Radio 4 this morning had Libby Purves describe cabaret artist Le Gateau Chocolat as a 'cross-dresser'
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Sioni Sais
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quote: Originally posted by Matt Black: Midweek on Radio 4 this morning had Libby Purves describe cabaret artist Le Gateau Chocolat as a 'cross-dresser'
i) that was Libby Purves ii) that was BBC Radio 4
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Amorya
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quote: Originally posted by Kelly Alves: Maybe we should check in regionally-- if anything, The way it is used around here is the exact opposite of what Jade says-- people talk about "cross dressing" when they are belittling the act (or don't know much about it), and call people "transvestites" when they are trying to be proper.
"Transvestite" often implies "Gets sexual kicks from it". This is because back in the DSM-III days, the disorder that's now known as Transvestic Fetishism was then referred to as Transvestism, and links the act of a man wearing women's clothes with sexual perversion. Since there are many many other reasons to cross-dress, some people object to the baggage the word transvestite carries.
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quote: Originally posted by Huia: quote: Originally posted by Kelly Alves: Maybe we should check in regionally-- if anything, The way it is used around here is the exact opposite of what Jade says-- people talk about "cross dressing" when they are belittling the act (or don't know much about it), and call people "transvestites" when they are trying to be proper.
I find it really confusing. I would never set out to use a racist term, but when my sister-in-law was visiting from America I inadvertently used a term (that I had heard on National Radio here, which is government funded so usually a reliale source) which she thought was racist so she hit the roof, after that I just shut up. The thing is that I don't read a lot of American books, watch little TV and seldom go to movies so I am just not up to date with what is acceptable in that area.
I think there are probably other people like me who don't realise they may be using an offensive term. .
Huia
When I was living in Ireland I used the word 'gyp' which is common slang in North America. The Irish were appalled. I apologized. I wasn't aware of what a fraught subject it was or that it was considered a pejorative.
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lilBuddha
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quote: Originally posted by Amorya: some people object to the baggage the word transvestite carries.
And some people do not, so I think Kelly's point is valid in that usage is situational. Like the word Black in America. in the UK, it is a perfectly acceptable word, in America it is variable. Including the very weird use of African-American applied to non-Americans.
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Pomona
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Transvestite was coined to refer to dressing in the clothing of another gender as a fetish - cross-dresser was coined in the 70s to indicate non-fetish wearing of clothing of another gender. From people who cross-dress that I know, cross-dressing is the preferred term and is the politest term to use - if some people prefer transvestite then they are obviously entitled to do so (just like some transgender people use 'transsexual') but it's up to them to say so, not for others to guess. Cross-dressing should be the default term, just like transgender is.
Also, t****y/t****ie is a deeply offensive slur within the trans* community. It's the equivalent of n****r.
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lilBuddha
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Jade, You tend to the pendantic for one community, please then do so for others. They are not equivilant.
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Jade, you're stating things as facts that just plain aren't universal. My college friend who was trans called herself a trannie, she preferred that term to others. In fact, I think both my college trans friends/acquaintances used the term about themselves and encouraged others to do so, though I'm more sure about the one who told me to use it. It's not a word to use if you don't know that it would be preferred, but hatred of it is definitely not across the board.
You say you'd like people not to guess, so don't make broad based statements about what people should do when you're just guessing based on those you know, please. [ 14. May 2014, 15:45: Message edited by: Gwai ]
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Matt Black
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Round these parts, 'cross-dresser' tends to be the pejorative, with 'transvestite' the more correct term. 'Tranny' can be pejorative or affectionate depending on context!
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Honest Ron Bacardi
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Jade - there are multiple understandings of the word "fetish" - which one did you have in mind?
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Sioni Sais
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quote: Originally posted by Honest Ron Bacardi: Jade - there are multiple understandings of the word "fetish" - which one did you have in mind?
Slightly 'fet'?
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quote: Originally posted by Gwai: Jade, you're stating things as facts that just plain aren't universal.
What, Jade Constable acting as if her own views on what's acceptable and what isn't are equivalent to Holy Writ?
I'd be shocked if it wasn't for the fact that it happens all the fucking time.
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lilBuddha
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Hang on a moment. Tunnel-vision is a common side effect of being involved in activism. I know this to my own detriment. I believe her heart is in the right place, even if her view is slightly more constricted than she is aware.
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Siegfried
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Historically, Jade is correct. Transvestism was associated with those who dress in clothing of the opposite gender for sexual gratification or arousal. Cross-dressing as a term emerged to differentiate the serialization of it. (see Wikipedia). Drag Queen, at least as I've always used it and heard it used, is more a performance piece. If you cross dress to perform, you're a drag queen. If you're a man who wears panties as a turn-on, you're a transvestite. If you dress as a member of the opposite gender for non-sexual, non-performance, you're a cross dresser. Now, how that all relates to transgenderism... I have no clue.
In any case, DD needs to make an acquaintance with a rusty farm implement post haste.
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ecumaniac
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quote: Originally posted by Jade Constable:
Also, t****y/t****ie is a deeply offensive slur within the trans* community. It's the equivalent of n****r.
Except in Australia where it isn't [ 14. May 2014, 17:56: Message edited by: ecumaniac ]
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Originally posted by Jade Constable: quote: Also, t****y/t****ie is a deeply offensive slur within the trans* community. It's the equivalent of n****r.
Ok, so now I'm confused.
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Can someone remind me again why 'trans' has an asterisk after it here? (It's not because there's a footnote, I know that much.)
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The Phantom Flan Flinger
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quote: Originally posted by ecumaniac: quote: Originally posted by Jade Constable:
Also, t****y/t****ie is a deeply offensive slur within the trans* community. It's the equivalent of n****r.
Except in Australia where it isn't
Well, that's just the Aussies being contrary
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lilBuddha
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Not their fault. Hanging upside down does things to you.
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JoannaP
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quote: Originally posted by Anglican't: Can someone remind me again why 'trans' has an asterisk after it here? (It's not because there's a footnote, I know that much.)
I assume the asterisk is acting as a wild card, so trans* can be expanded to transvestite, transgendered, transatlantic etc. etc.
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lilBuddha
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quote: Originally posted by JoannaP: transatlantic
No need for vulgarity, JoannaP.
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Kelly Alves
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quote: Originally posted by Matt Black: Round these parts, 'cross-dresser' tends to be the pejorative, with 'transvestite' the more correct term. 'Tranny' can be pejorative or affectionate depending on context!
Yep, yep, yep.
I think we need to also check in to note if we are folk who live in or by a huge, slamming gayopolis, because at least in San Francisco there is the whole issue of the gay community aggressively re-claiming every derogatory phrase thrown at them as a badge of honor. That's why I had to be schooled about being careful with phrases like "queer nation", because I had only heard them uttered with pride.
Nowadays I try whenever possible to keep my mouth shut until someone conversationally directs me to the right word. Keeping mouth shut can work wonders in situations like this.
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lilBuddha
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quote: Keeping mouth shut can work wonders in situations like this.
But ever so boring.
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Kelly Alves
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Who said I was put on this earth to be a walking vaudeville act?
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quetzalcoatl
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quote: Originally posted by Kelly Alves: Who said I was put on this earth to be a walking vaudeville act?
It's a fine ambition actually. A few of us are thinking of setting up as VaudeInc, or some name like that, so if you are interested we will put you on our books. No qualifications needed really, just fun, fun, fun, willingness to get it wrong, mostly we wear dresses, beards optional, large Charlie Chaplin boots are good, and so on. I know you'd love it.
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Kelly Alves
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Shit I manage comedy enough unintentionally without going to all that trouble.
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quetzalcoatl
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Come on, babes; I'll wear the dress, you get the beard, let's fuck over these bigots who find a bloke in a dress disgusting or whatever. We are Decadent Morons, and proud.
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quetzalcoatl
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New sig or what! Fuck the bigots! Dresses are for everyone!
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Kelly Alves
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Finally, a parade for me...
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quetzalcoatl
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And if you're a man who wears panties, because all of his are in the wash, you're just being bleeding practical.
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ecumaniac
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quote: Originally posted by lilBuddha: Not their fault. Hanging upside down does things to you.
Indeed.
But seriously.
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art dunce
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These guys sell manly skirts. [ 14. May 2014, 23:53: Message edited by: art dunce ]
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quote: Originally posted by art dunce: These guys sell manly skirts.
But if you wear one, it will mark you as an out of fashion hipster faster than wearing plaid pants.
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Ariston
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No, that would be me, my soul patch/mustache combo, long, flowing locks, borrowed fixie, and pink, fluffy tutu.
Yes, there are pictures. Yes, there is a perfectly reasonable explanation. Yes, you probably want me to just leave it at that.
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RuthW
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Hell with the perfectly reasonable explanation, we want to see the pictures!
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quote: Originally posted by art dunce: These guys sell manly skirts.
Excellent for improving the sperm count
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