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Thread: Unexpected Compensations of Ageing
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Lyda*Rose
Ship's broken porthole
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Originally posted by Pigwidgeon:
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Originally posted by Ad Orientem:
What about talking to yourself? I do that all the time and quite often refer to myself in the process as "we": "So, what are we going to do today then?"
That's one of the many advantages of having a dog. I can discuss things with her, which seems so much more sensible than talking to myself. ![[Smile]](smile.gif)
I find that blaming my cat for misplacing my "stuff" works wonderfully. Within moments of my looking at him sternly and announcing, "Where is my _____? I know you hid it. You're just that kind of cat", the item appears. It's magic! ![[Biased]](wink.gif)
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Brenda Clough
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Oh, I blame my cats for everything. Now that the children have moved out, it is very convenient.
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The Phantom Flan Flinger
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Originally posted by Rowen:
Not needing to go out on weekend nights.
I can't recall ever needing to go out on weekend nights.
I sometimes went out at the weekend, but didn't feel that I was missing anything if I didn't.
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Graven Image
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I am on the downhill side of 70 and I find it a joy to just not care. You don't like something I said, I don't care, the blouse is not the best color for my skin, I don't care, One should not eat ice cream for breakfast, I don't care. And the wonderful list goes on and on.
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Graven Image
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I am on the downhill side of 70 and I find it a joy to just not care. You don't like something I said, I don't care, the blouse is not the best color for my skin, I don't care, One should not eat ice cream for breakfast, I don't care. And the wonderful list goes on and on.
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quetzalcoatl
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Originally posted by Graven Image:
I am on the downhill side of 70 and I find it a joy to just not care. You don't like something I said, I don't care, the blouse is not the best color for my skin, I don't care, One should not eat ice cream for breakfast, I don't care. And the wonderful list goes on and on.
Absolutely agree. But I don't care whether I agree with you or not.
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Thyme
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I love the feeling of being released from having to do anything or feel responsible for anything.
Hot political issues? Saving whales? Wind Farms v Fracking or returning to a pre-electric age?
There is nothing much I can do, and no-one is interested in my opinions.
I can leave it to the youngsters to worry about and exhaust themselves over.
And it is so wonderful not to have to worry about a career or finding or keeping a job, or paying a mortgage.
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Penny S
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Being able to lie in like a teenager. Or get up early and throw on trousers and a jacket over my nightwear and do gardening before breakfast. (Cleared a load of Creeping Jenny and planted bulbs and primroses today.)
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Pigwidgeon
Ship's Owl
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I just watched the trailer for "My Old Lady," which opens tomorrow -- two of my very favorites, Maggie Smith AND Kevin Kline. ![[Yipee]](graemlins/spin.gif)
Anyway, at about 1:00 Maggie declares, "I'm 90. Subtlety is not something that interests me." I love it!
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jacobsen
seeker
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Giving up the unavailing attempt to be perfectly turned out, slim, with thick hair...
So much easier just to be me.
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Beauty fades, dumb is forever-Judge Judy
The man who made time, made plenty.
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Tukai
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as several other men on this thread have said with equal pleasure, I have not worn a tie since I retired from a job where that was required. Spending most of my time since then in the tropics meant that as a bonus, I could wear shorts and sandals instead.
Now "retired" for the second time ("for how long? asks my wife, now herself also retired) and savouring also
> being a grandparent - lots of love shared but almost no responsibility (since I can hand the kids back!)
> being able to do things on the day of the week and the time of day that best suits me.
> if some task gets delayed by a few days: who cares?
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Brenda Clough
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Someone's done a graph, of happiness over a lifetime. It appears that there is a peak around nine years old, when you have achieved more or less most of the skills you need to function at a child level. The onset of puberty heads the graph downhill. Marriage and (crucially) the arrival of children actually makes the happiness line go down even more, and things apparently bottom out in the late 40s. But then after that things start turning up. (The kids leave! So cheering!) Fifty and sixty-year-olds are as happy as nine-year-olds, until old-old age and its debilities start to erode contentment once again.
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I'd like to see the graph, if you know where it is from.
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Miffy
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No hassle when you walk past building sites.
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jedijudy
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There's always something to talk about, because you forget the conversations from 30 minutes ago!
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ThunderBunk
Stone cold idiot
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Oh my bleeding eyes! * pop in to find out what * have to look forward to, only to find the thread infested with Comic sans. Truly a cruel jape by our lovely H&As
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Galloping Granny
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Faced with a gorgeous young physiotherapist * can imagine he's my grandson.
GG
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Bernard Mahler
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Originally posted by Galloping Granny:
Faced with a gorgeous young physiotherapist * can imagine he's my grandson.
GG
Granny, how did you know I was, or had been, a physiotherapist? And I'm only 81!
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Huia
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Having a nephew. He is the sole grandchild of my late parents and is now in his early twenties. We had a long talk on the phone tonight about computers as I've just connected to broadband. He gave me some useful technical info then proceeded to tell me what a dangerous place the internet could be. I felt like a teenager being given advice by mum before going into the city alone for the first time. It was weird, but sweet.
Huia
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Fineline
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As you get older, people stop thinking you're weird for not liking clubbing or partying. Preferring to stay home is no longer 'sad' or boring - lots of people prefer it as they get older!
Also, as someone who has never wanted to have children, people have stopped bugging me about it and trying to pursuade me that I'm wrong or that I'll regret it, now I'm older.
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Pigwidgeon
Ship's Owl
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Originally posted by Fineline:
Also, as someone who has never wanted to have children, people have stopped bugging me about it and trying to pursuade me that I'm wrong or that I'll regret it, now I'm older.
Exactly!
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Dog Dad
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I can dress as warmly and unfashionably as I want. Being shaved bald, I can wear a hat and never have to think about what my hair looks like afterward. I can avoid situations that I've already experienced.
Another Comp is getting to talk to my parents on equal footing...I truly get to appreciate them as people with wants and needs and private thoughts and I am enjoying them immensely.
Routine. I love routine. I love the satisfied sigh my body makes as it eases into the recliner after work.
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Sir Kevin
Ship's Gaffer
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I can address younger women under 40 as girls because of my white hair!
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Mamacita
Lakefront liberal
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Posted
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Originally posted by Sir Kevin:
I can address younger women under 40 as girls because of my white hair!
Only if you want to appear patronizing.
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