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Jude
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I'm feeling rather despondant right now. I've recently been praying for somebody I know, who seemed like they needed some help. However, since I started praying they just seem to be going down and down. I may not even see them again. Surely God would want the same as me in this case, which is to help this person get out of the situation they are in. I have actually seen this person ask God for help too. Is something blocking God's work? Are there times when God can't help? All this makes me so sad. Is there anything I can do?

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It would be good if prayer 'worked' in the sense that whatever we asked for, we would get. What would it say about God, if that happened?

It may well be that God's will is aligned with your will, and everything is possible with God, so don't give up hope. We will never know how things will pan out though, or what good can come from them even if the worst seems to have happened.

[Votive] for you and for your friend, Jude. All you can do is to continue to pray, and to give support to your friend in every way possible.

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If you're looking for a theological answer, you'll find quite the cornucopia to choose from over on the "why does God give us freedom?" thread.

But I sense that's not really what you're looking for. Rather, you're looking to cry out at the injustice and pain of what your friend is going thru and you are going thru on his or her behalf. Here I can only say that I believe that in so doing you are resonating with the heart of God. Your yearning for things to be "set right" and your honesty in insisting that the current state of affairs is most definitely "not right" is, I think, what calls us to yearn for God and restoration.

I wish we could give you a formula, an answer, a trick. We cannot. But I join you in praying: Maranatha, come Lord Jesus, come.
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I'm reminded of Cinderella here when she is confronted by her fairy godmother. A wave of the wand and it all happens for Cinders. [Ultra confused]
I lost my Bro-in-law to prostate cancer 2 years ago when he was 58. We prayed and prayed for his healing. ..Sorry, no cigar.
Something is a bit awry with either our expectations of God and it cannot be God by definition.
On thing in the gospels is "knock and keep on knocking." If we didn't need God to come through we probably wouldn't seek him.

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I have two thoughts.
One is the difference between healing and curing. In cases of illness (which not be your friend's situation) it might not be possible for the person to be cured and become well again, but for them to accept God's love and care in their situation, as we ask (some of us!) when we pray 'be with us in the time of trial.
The other is Jesus' cry on the cross: "Nevertheless not my will but yours'. Surely God does not wish anyone to suffer, but there are bad things in the world, and God's loving arms hold us when we experience grief and pain.

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Expect no miracles. Expect only comfort. That's all that is on offer. It's all that ever was on offer and all that ever will be.

This may be a hard message to consider, at least it was/is for me for me. But is gets easier, and it is the reality that crisis after crisis has lead me to understand.

When you can't do anything, hold to the path, pick up your heart, hand it off to someone else. Turn to something you know, a routine, a way of doing things. Psalms. A routine for a week of repetitive words. Something to ground the spirit a bit.

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My guess is, take ten people, drop the same bad stuff on each of them, if there is "purpose" to the bad stuff it's a different purpose for each, which is part of why we can't see a pattern.

Also we tend to see short term. We want protection from or relief from this pain right now. But lots of articles and books have been written on the theme of "the heart attack and 5 weeks in the hospital was the best thing that ever happened to me." Before the attack people were praying for health and comfort, during the attack they were praying for quick recovery, heart attack plus 5 weeks of hospital plus more weeks of post hospital recovery doesn't sound like answered prayer but maybe it was - answer to a much deeper prayer, for purpose and meaning, for passion and seeing what matters most. "Best thing" is not the heart attack but that was the tool used to bring about a life changing new awareness of some kind.

Or the person dies - if the Near Death Experience reports are true, the person newly dead doesn't see their death as a bad thing! Our loss, their gain.

Not claiming to understand it all or even 10%, but sometimes we get glimpse that maybe something much bigger is going on than what we see and fret about.

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Maybe it's just me, but I have trouble with the "look for the bigger purpose" answer. Sure, sometimes that works-- the "heart attack was the best thing that ever happened to me" because it made me slow down, saved my marriage, whatever. But far, far more often, it's just crappy. And there is some serious crappy stuff out there. Child abuse. Human trafficking. Horrible, ravaging illness plaguing innocent children. I'm sorry, there's no purpose, no goodness in that.

I believe God is there, that God is with those who suffer. And there is meaning and wonder and possibly comfort in that. But purpose? No.

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Thank you cliffdweller, I gave up praying after my mum died. There had been no let up for her for six years. But the comfort is still there even when I don't seek it. I rail against God and work hard to lose my faith, but, so far, God's comfort remains.

How/why to ever pray again - I can't think of a reason.

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My feeling has been for a long time that prayer is like shouting into a dark, windy night. Your words are either swept away and swallowed up in the darkness or blown back into your face. Either way, there is no answer, and there is no comfort, no sense of response or even of anyone listening. There is nothing but silence.

God isn’t a divine Santa Claus. He isn’t going to grant every single request on a list that might involve getting a parking space, healing a sick member of family, sorting out a tax bill, or providing a miracle to order when you want one. Half the time what you want would have implications for what other people might want or need as well: who gets priority on the parking space?

I’ve often wondered about the nature of a god who created a world where every living thing has to take the life of something else to survive, pretty much from birth, whether it’s animals, plants or seeds and nuts. I think a lot of the time people want to believe that there’s a plan to the world, that it’s run by someone who cares, but I find that increasingly difficult to believe. For me the buck stops here. If you don’t deal with the problem yourself, or your fellow human beings don’t, nothing intangible is going to come to your rescue and provide that miracle to order.

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quote:
Originally posted by Ariel:
If you don’t deal with the problem yourself, or your fellow human beings don’t, nothing intangible is going to come to your rescue and provide that miracle to order.

I see a lot of prayer which is (unconsciously) aimed at the audience. I know an unemployed person who puts up FaceBook requests for prayer for his situation. Guess what? 'God provides abundantly' - in other words, people who read the prayers help this person out. Shame they don't get the credit.

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I believe that God comes along side us in our joys and sorrows, but he doesn't manipulate our lives as though we are robots. Many people approach God as though he is a benevolent Father Christmas who will give us everything we desire if we are good and if we ask nicely. However, often God says no just as Jesus discovered in the Garden of Gethsemane. It is worth reading again about the trials Job went through to understand the suffering of an individual and his struggles with praying to God.

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I am with Ariel. There is no Santa Claus. There is only the necessity to live in this now, this moment, however intolerable that seems. To do that, because you must, and find you can do it - because you must: there is a sort of strength in that that sometimes turns to peace.

That and the solidarity of other people.

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I don't know. I'm sorry for your friend.

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Originally posted by no prophet's flag is set so...:
Expect no miracles. Expect only comfort. That's all that is on offer. It's all that ever was on offer and all that ever will be.

And sometimes, not even comfort.

All I know is, we waste too much time making excuses for God. Explaining his absence. Justifying his silence. Really, what sort of God is it whose worshippers feel they constantly have to apologise for him?

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A Roman Catholic friend once told me, "there is no such thing as an unanswered prayer".
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quote:
Originally posted by Anglicano:
A Roman Catholic friend once told me, "there is no such thing as an unanswered prayer".

Yeah, I've heard that one from churchy keenies of all stripes. It's not, actually, particularly helpful, because it merely works by redefining "unanswered" to a point where it has no meaning.

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In the Garden: "Thy will not Mine"; on the Cross "Why hast Thou forsaken Me?".

Even between Persons of the (undivided) Trinity, it would seem that, for Christians, prayer is not revealed to be a simple and comforting process.

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quote:
Originally posted by Boogie:
Thank you cliffdweller, I gave up praying after my mum died. There had been no let up for her for six years. But the comfort is still there even when I don't seek it. I rail against God and work hard to lose my faith, but, so far, God's comfort remains.

How/why to ever pray again - I can't think of a reason.

Ironically, as an Open Theist, prayer has more of a purpose, not less. We do believe prayer changes things-- or can change things-- so we have a greater commitment to prayer. But we do not believe that everything that happens is God's will, even when we pray. So, while we have a greater calling to intercede prayerfully, we don't look for some "greater purpose" when our prayers aren't answered. Unanswered prayer is part of the continued crappiness of our broken and fallen world, and part of the reason we pray "Maranatha: come Lord Jesus, come".

All that's part of a bigger theological paradigm which, again, I've alluded to on the "freedom" thread. But I'm not sure that's what's needed here. When you're in the thick of the crappiness of life I think mostly you just need to rail and cry out against the ugly, raw injustice of it all, and to hear others come alongside you and simply affirm, no, you're not crazy, this is pure s**t. Or at least, that's what I want in those circumstances.

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All will be well. Because of that promise in Christ, let's serve one another. At least as well as those who serve with no such promise. Hear one another. Weep with the weeping. God does. Fully in every infinitesimal soul shaped hole of Her infinite being.

Jude [Votive]

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quote:
Originally posted by Firenze:
I am with Ariel. There is no Santa Claus. There is only the necessity to live in this now, this moment, however intolerable that seems. To do that, because you must, and find you can do it - because you must: there is a sort of strength in that that sometimes turns to peace.

That and the solidarity of other people.

Well said ... and the last sentence is absolutely the most important.

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quote:
Originally posted by no prophet's flag is set so...:
Expect no miracles. Expect only comfort. That's all that is on offer. It's all that ever was on offer and all that ever will be.

And sometimes, not even comfort.

All I know is, we waste too much time making excuses for God. Explaining his absence. Justifying his silence. Really, what sort of God is it whose worshippers feel they constantly have to apologise for him?

That's true. It's only comfort if you find it. It might be something else, like rage and resignedness.

I found myself praying out of habit, from a long history and familiarity of doing so, and being perturbed with myself, when I would find some phrases going through my mind and sometimes on my tongue, like "protect me O God", to which I found myself adding, "except you won't, except you don't".

I also found myself calling God by his last name. (Damn, or Mr. Damn)

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Surely The Lord's Prayer is quite helpful here: "Thy will be done", but "give us this day our daily bread"; "lead us not into temptation" and "deliver us from evil".

Now if we are tempted and succumb, well, we can hardly blame God. He has given us free will, after all. But say we pray to be delivered from evil only to find that someone had broken into our car while we were in church. Where was God then? Not an easy one, is it?

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I don't know if my prayer ever changes anything except me - and it does change me, markedly but for quite short periods before it's time to pray again. It feels a bit like jogging, or being at work moving a pile of sand from A to B - it happens in the doing of it, not in some projected and far-reaching effect of the doing of it. Ach, I can't explain it clearly.

So 'please God rescue x from yyy' might end up being 'God, do I have the strength to do anything about x and yyy', or even 'God, I haven't the strength / wit / ability and you don't seem to be giving it to me - God will you help x and me with your peace as yyy inexorably comes?'.

Without God, why worry about yyy? It's just shit, same as the good times. It hurts, it's unjust - seek the source of justice, if He exists.

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Don't think Jesus had the solidarity of other people that evening in Gethsemane. Nor did he have in what followed, not even from His Father it would seem.

Prayer is ultimately as Paul said 'a groaning of the spirit'. It may bring comfort, it may bring a sense of off-load, or occasionally even a sense of joy. These though are all by-products, essentially prayer is a one on One, the One being S(he)whereby they is no separation because Jesus kinda like did with that?

As for prayer working or not working? Afraid I have to pass on that one. Agreeing with comments upthread, I find the image of a Lord with a Shepherd's crook to guide us through oppressions more helpful than a magic wand to solve them.

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And He guides us in every possible way except literally.

It's way past time to put away childish things kids.

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In "The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn", Huck is told he should pray, so he tries it, and he gets (if I remember correctly) a fishing line but no hooks. He is then told he should pray for spiritual gifts, but he has no idea what that means, and he stops praying. Nonetheless, it seems clear that God does look out for him.

For many of us, most of our prayers should be thank-yous. Don't ask God for more blessings; thank God for what you have already received.

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quote:
Originally posted by HCH:
In "The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn", Huck is told he should pray, so he tries it, and he gets (if I remember correctly) a fishing line but no hooks. He is then told he should pray for spiritual gifts, but he has no idea what that means, and he stops praying. Nonetheless, it seems clear that God does look out for him.

For many of us, most of our prayers should be thank-yous. Don't ask God for more blessings; thank God for what you have already received.

Can you think of one thing in your life which can only be explained by something non-natural?

As you are probably aware, Mark Twain was a well-known atheist; I googled Mark Twain atheist and there's a good page of his relevant quotes! [Smile]

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quote:
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And He guides us in every possible way except literally.

It's way past time to put away childish things kids.

Hear, hear. Prayer doesn't work (as in 'produce any kind of verifiable result') because prayer doesn't work.

Keep your hopes up!

K.

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I am a believer in prayer with passion at times like this. I have used it myself and the answers I have received are changes within myself.

Speaking to God from the gut, not the head. Not being polite or religious. Not choosing words carefully, all language can be used. Not quite and responsive, but loud and aggressive. Any language can be used to express your fury, anger, and frustration. No inhibitions.

God already knows what you are feeling so your expressed fury etc is a sign of the trust you have in him..

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quote:
Originally posted by SusanDoris:

As you are probably aware, Mark Twain was a well-known atheist; I googled Mark Twain atheist and there's a good page of his relevant quotes! [Smile]

Actually, if you google Mark Twain's religious beliefs what you find is not that he is a "well-known atheist" but rather that his actual religious beliefs are a topic of
great debate. He certainly was a sharp critic of American fundamentalist Christianity-- in a way that would fit in quite well here at the Ship. Religion appears to be an area of great interest for him, both the negative but also the positive (his take on Joan of Arc). But whether he was an atheist, agnostic, Deist, or liberal Christian is a matter of significant and ongoing debate.

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Originally posted by cliffdweller:
Maybe it's just me, but I have trouble with the "look for the bigger purpose" answer.

I didn't mean to suggest we should look for and expect to find, recognize (or agree with) a "bigger purpose." Most people I've known who guess "God is doing this to achieve that purpose" obviously get it wrong.

I'm suggesting occasionally we get a glimpse suggesting that could be what's going on, God is working through the pain to bring about something more important than mere life or death.

I don't mean to suggest God created the painful situation, but rather that God can take any situation handed to God, and use it to bring about good. Not that this specific pain is essential, but as long as it's here God can go ahead and use it, like an artist can draw your portrait no matter what art tools you hand him - charcoal, oils, colored sands.

Doesn't Paul suggest several times that God can bring good out of anything, and that the pain and effort is all worth it in the end?

"God can't do anything about your pains except be there with you" doesn't give me any peace! "God is with you while you go through the pain, but more than just being there, God is using the situation to do good for you even though you cannot see it and probably won't until after you are dead" keeps me going. YMMV.

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I'm 29 and coming to a point in life where I'm seriously and deeply questioning the implications of questions like the one raised in the OP.

I find it quite discouraging that Christians twice my age don't seem to have worked out any solid answers to these things either. (That's not based just on reading this forum.)

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Originally posted by Trin:
I'm 29 and coming to a point in life where I'm seriously and deeply questioning the implications of questions like the one raised in the OP.

I find it quite discouraging that Christians twice my age don't seem to have worked out any solid answers to these things either. (That's not based just on reading this forum.)

None of the big questions have well thought out answers that are cut and dried and hold water really well. If they did they'd no longer be Big Questions. Make of it what you will.

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Why would you expect Christians twice your age to have developed clearer answers, Trin?

[Confused]

People have been puzzling these things out for centuries. I doubt if I'll suss them out within my three-score years and ten - if I'm spared that long (and I'm not quite twice your age yet).

Perhaps in four or five years time I'll have it all sussed ... [Biased]

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SusanDoris:
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Can you think of one thing in your life which can only be explained by something non-natural?
Well it all hangs on how you define natural. If you mean "fully explained by a set of deterministic chemical/biological processes which are measureable in principle, if not in practice due to their complexity" then I would cite anything down to the free choice of free non-determined individuals. You are quite welcome to believe freedom and consciousness are essentially illusions but I disagree. Yes you can mount a case for it, a la Daniel Dennett, but I am just not convinced.

Of course, Christians have a broader concept of natural and would class, say, the decision of my wife to marry me, as entirely natural but not pre-determined. So natural for most christians can include non-material causes, and non-natural would imply anything not part of the natural order, like as Ass speaking. [Razz]

But most atheists are also materialists which is why I sort of assume you are.

In the christian sense of natural, nothing has happened outside it, which is ok with me. It gets too random for me if Asses speak. Life's complicated enough without that.

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quote:
Originally posted by Trin:
I'm 29 and coming to a point in life where I'm seriously and deeply questioning the implications of questions like the one raised in the OP.

I find it quite discouraging that Christians twice my age don't seem to have worked out any solid answers to these things either. (That's not based just on reading this forum.)

I think I've worked out some pretty solid answers on this: prayer doesn't change God. If the purpose is to get God to do something and/or to change his mind about something, then that's not going to happen.

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[/QUOTE]Can you think of one thing in your life which can only be explained by something non-natural?
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Yes, my pleasant drift from agnosticism back to Anglicanism was aided by various events which were more than just coincidences.

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Actually, if you google Mark Twain's religious beliefs what you find is not that he is a "well-known atheist" but rather that his actual religious beliefs are a topic of
[URL=http://www.patheos.com/blogs/wakeupcall/2014/10/its-time-to-take-mark-twain-back-from-the-atheists/]great debate.

I'm sure you're right. But these "new atheists" claim all sorts of people: Charles Darwin, David Attenborough, Jim Callaghan and Ralph Vaughan Williams for example.

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cliffdweller

Thank you for the info re Mark Twain - I'll investigate further tomorrow. (I've been out all day today on IoW.)

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quote:
Originally posted by Trin:
I find it quite discouraging that Christians twice my age don't seem to have worked out any solid answers to these things either. (That's not based just on reading this forum.)

The problem might be that God's ways are not our ways?

What if our questions are the wrong questions, like a teenager asking "how can I make that cute kid fall in love with me?" -- not in itself a "sinful" question but focused way too narrowly and based on some false assumptions.

Maybe what seem to us like the big questions are focused to narrowly or based on assumptions God sees beyond?

If we are asking the wrong questions or working from the wrong assumptions, we won't "hear" the answers even if they are obvious to anyone with looking from God's viewpoint.

So we muddle through life puzzled, seeing through a glass darkly, assured some day we will understand and rejoice.

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quote:
Originally posted by Trin:
I'm 29 and coming to a point in life where I'm seriously and deeply questioning the implications of questions like the one raised in the OP.

I find it quite discouraging that Christians twice my age don't seem to have worked out any solid answers to these things either. (That's not based just on reading this forum.)

Some very smart people have been trying to work out what Christ was up to for two thousand years, and that's on top of work done by Jews, Greeks and others. Glib phrases like "God works in mysterious ways" annoy the heck out of me and I wish there were answers too, but I can't help thinking that if there were solid answers, faith wouldn't be a matter of faith, just dry, systematic scholarship.

I'm exactly twice your age and gave up expecting much beyond the "Sure and certain hope of the life to come" about thirty years ago.

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Trin. Come on in, the clear, unpolluted, water's fine.

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quote:
Originally posted by mr cheesy:
I think I've worked out some pretty solid answers on this: prayer doesn't change God. If the purpose is to get God to do something and/or to change his mind about something, then that's not going to happen.

Then why bother?

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quote:
Originally posted by Karl: Liberal Backslider:
quote:
Originally posted by Trin:
I'm 29 and coming to a point in life where I'm seriously and deeply questioning the implications of questions like the one raised in the OP.

I find it quite discouraging that Christians twice my age don't seem to have worked out any solid answers to these things either. (That's not based just on reading this forum.)

None of the big questions have well thought out answers that are cut and dried and hold water really well. If they did they'd no longer be Big Questions. Make of it what you will.
We're all different characters/personalities. We each relate to God in our own way. We all ask different questions and need different answers, maybe different answers at different times.

GG

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'Where two or three are gathered together, I am with you' speaks about the importance of community. I have often wondered how we think anything we do on our own can be more efficacious than meeting, sharing and encouraging each other prayerfully. Going away to spend hours in our own private prayer closets is for me far less important than the attitude that I can make my whole life a prayer. Every breath is a gift from God. Being mindful of others needs is a beautiful thing in this self-centred world. I don't consider that a waste.

And when I am dying I will be extremely grateful for anyone who prays - not for my healing - but for me to keep hold of the peace that passes all understanding. Who wants to die embittered and disappointed?' Lord, give me a good death' was a prayer often prayed by the faithful of the past. Funny how we tend to focus only on trying to stay in this world in our prayers these days.

BL. Looking forward.

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Amen BL, amen.

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Spot on, Banner Lady.

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I heard this morning that Job is at the end of the Jewish Testament because (sans the later addition of the "he got more stuff so everything is OK and better") it is an announcement that God is done intervening in the world.

Don't know if it is true. It is interesting.

As for me, prayer is transformative of my thoughts, even as it is not about changing situations.

Jude, I am sorry for the suffering of your friend. You are among people who care about you and your loss.

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Tortuf:
(sans the later addition of the "he got more stuff so everything is OK and better")

(I understood this part is earlier, not later.)

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