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Abigail
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My 60th birthday is fast approaching and I feel very depressed about it. Part of me wants to just ignore it and treat it as just another day – which of course it is. Part of me feels it's a significant landmark and I would like to mark it in some way. And yet again, part of me feels a sense of horror and despair that I've reached this age without doing anything worthwhile with my life.
So I was just wondering… could anyone suggest how I might cope with what I expect to be a difficult and lonely day – and possibly turn it into something special. Taking into account that I haven't got any family to celebrate with (all I've got now are two cousins I only see at funerals) and haven't really got any friends. A few people at church know it's my birthday (and I think they know how old I am) My work colleagues apparently don't. I have an old school friend who definitely knows, but she doesn't really 'do' birthdays. I have a friend living at the other end of the country who I can rely on to send me a card and possibly phone – but that's it.
I won't be at work – I've booked a week's leave, with vague ideas of doing something 'nice', going out somewhere for the day. But whereas I could go out for the day by myself when I was younger, these days it all feels a bit pointless. But I don’t want to spend the day loafing around at home feeling depressed and unable to get myself into the right frame of mind for doing anything, as has happened on past birthdays.
Any suggestions gratefully received (even if it's "pull yourself together and stop feeling sorry for yourself") ![[Frown]](frown.gif)
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moonlitdoor
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I suggest a ship meet.
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Yorick
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If you'd like to spend a day touring the beautiful Jurassic Coast and countryside of Dorset, I would clear my day for you and show you round.
I wish you a very happy birthday when it comes, whatever you end up doing.
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cattyish
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The day before, buy some flowers which have a really good scent, get up with that in the morning. Eat your very favorite breakfast. Mushrooms and egg on toast? Leftover curry? Whatever you love. Buy some really good coffee/ tea/ juice and go out somewhere, even if just to breathe the fresh air. If you can go somewhere beautifully peaceful and maybe listen to some amazing music that would be ideal (Pluscarden Abbey is my favourite secret getaway). Get a show, film, concert or guided tour booked for the evening. Dress comfortably, in something you feel happy wearing. Get a facial or a massage. Walk in sand barefoot, so long as it's clean sand! Go to bed with a notebook and write down one good thing you did.
I hope you have an encouraging day and find one good thing to say about it. I bet you can find more than one though.
Cattyish, wishing you a very happy birthday and a very worthwhile year to come.
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Ariel
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Originally posted by Abigail:
I won't be at work – I've booked a week's leave, with vague ideas of doing something 'nice', going out somewhere for the day. But whereas I could go out for the day by myself when I was younger, these days it all feels a bit pointless.
Slightly less pointless if you go out for the day knowing you're going to meet some people and have that to look forward to. There could be some shipmates up for lunch, or for dinner/a shipmeet in the evening. It could be in London or it could be in a place you haven't been to before. The London shipmates seem like a friendly lot; moonlitdoor's idea of a ship meet sounds like a good one.
Maybe decide to try one new, different thing a day in your birthday week - something you don't normally do? They could be quite simple things, maybe as simple as buying yourself a bunch of bright flowers, going out for coffee and cake, trying a new hairstyle, etc. Or you might even take the plunge and go to a ship meet. By the end of your birthday week you'd have tried seven new things, maybe made some new friends, and seen some new places.
Anyway, just an idea to consider, no worries if it doesn't appeal - but whatever you decide, I wish you all the very best for your birthday and the coming year.
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Originally posted by moonlitdoor:
I suggest a ship meet.
This is a good idea. I showed up in London and had a lovely time with people with whom my only commonality is that we all joined Ship of Fools. If I wasn't 7000 km away I would come.
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Firenze
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I'd support cattyish's suggestion - except that I would spread them around the next 6 months. For the day itself, I'd recommend something like taking every item of clothing you haven't worn in at least 6 months to the charity shop. Or repainting a principle room of your house. Or researching and signing up for an immersive course/workshop in cooking or watercolours or writing or learning Spanish or Windows 8.. Or anything else that would leave you feeling every so slightly exhausted but with a sense of having Done Something. Then I'd crack open a bottle of Prosecco or Cava, order up a takeaway, and watch a video of It's a Wonderful Life. Or Truly, Madly, Deeply. Or Terry Gilliam's Munchhausen. Or any other bit of zonkingly imaginative visual art.
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Curiosity killed ...
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I'll pm some suggestions too. But seriously - we do do London Shipmeets regularly and as moonlitdoor has volunteered he can come too - so that's two of us! Without asking anyone else.
Have you seen we're planning a meet on Hampstead Heath on 10th August?
I've taken myself to afternoon tea at the top of Tate Modern before now - incredible view and enough to eat to be a meal. Or booked a ticket to the Globe. Last summer I was so cross I couldn't go to Greenbelt because I had to be in work on the Tuesday afterwards I booked tickets to the Globe all weekend: the three Henry IV plays back to back on the Sunday and Blue Stockings on the Saturday night.
It's time for the Proms, and the cheap tickets are £5 or £6. Or this hot, a day up at the Ladies' Pond on Hampstead Heath is fun - secluded field to sit in the sun or shade, and a pond to swim in.
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Pigwidgeon
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Originally posted by Curiosity killed ...:
... I booked tickets to the Globe all weekend: the three Henry IV plays back to back on the Sunday...
[tangent] Three Henry IVs? [/tangent]
That said, I can't imagine a more wonderful place to spend a birthday than the Globe. If only it weren't over 5000 miles away (and my birthday falls the wrong time of year).
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Welease Woderwick
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If you can afford it have a day at a spa.
...or go to a gallery or a stately home or a museum.
A Shipmeet is a great idea.
Allow yourself to be silly for the day/week.
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M.
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It can take a certain amount of mental energy to make yourself do something, and if you're feeling depleted and down, it can be easy not to bother, even if you know you'll enjoy it. So a shipmeet is a good idea, as you have the extra oomph provided by Not Letting People Down. Or is that just me?
And I for one feel it's time we had a London shipmeet, and Macarius & I are probably not going to make the walk (I'm thinking about timings but that is for the other thread!)
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Heavenly Anarchist
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My idea of a treat day is a morning at a gallery or museum with a specific objective in mind (the last time it was textiles) so that I have a goal to aim for and don't just wander. Then lunch at a cafe or restaurant followed by window shopping a few boutiques or antique shops. Looking at things of beauty and learning about them cheers me up. My top choice for a few days break would be Bath.
Have a good birthday.
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St Everild
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The idea of a ship meet sounds like fun, and I think that there are a lot of London shippies who might be up for a lunch? Or afternoon tea? Do it on a Monday and I'd come from Bethnei if I could ( day on a train - what's not to like!)
It all depends on what you like to do, really. If you have to spend your day on your own how about booking tea at the Ritz? Treat yourself to a really good book (try not to spill tea or splurge jam on it!) and read and drink tea, eat sandwiches and scones and cake. And someone else does the washing up.
Or book a day at a spa, and have a massage/facial/manicure to treat yourself.
I don't know what your financial situation is, but can you give yourself some money to go and buy a lovely gift that says "I matter and this world would be poorer if I was not in it". (Jewellery does it for me, YMMV...). The pleasure of looking and choosing is nice. You could treat yourself to a trip to Hatton Garden or Birmingham's Jewellery Quarter and just look around...there is a good museum in the Jewellery Quarter (and In B'ham too for that matter)
If you would trust me with your address (not your RL name) I'll gladly send you a card...
However you choose to spend your birthday, I hope that it is not as awful as you fear it might be.
St E, catching you up...
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St Everild
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Sorry for the double post, ....I wanted to add that if you book something (tea at the Ritz, spa day, lunch with shippies.... that commitment will get you up and out of bed, dressed and looking presentable. Otherwise you could just loaf about wasting the day and feeling even worse about it.
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The Intrepid Mrs S
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Originally posted by St Everild:
If you would trust me with your address (not your RL name) I'll gladly send you a card...
Oh, me too!
Mrs. S waaaaay ahead of you!
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Chocoholic
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They all sound like fabulous plans ![[Smile]](smile.gif) card (again if you trust me with your address via pm!) also offered from me!
Reading what you wrote I wonder if you know what it is that is is making you feel depressed about it?
Is there any trusted pastoral support (clergy or lay worker at church maybe) who could you could talk to and maybe work through some of it? It might be the thought you have about it (but may not be aware of as you are more aware of what it then makes you feel) which are making you depressed, and it might be that if you talk about what they are, maybe look a them in different ways, your forthcoming birthday won't feel like such a bad thing.
There are good things about being 60 too. Think of the freedom pass for example!
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Nenya
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Originally posted by The Intrepid Mrs S:
quote:
Originally posted by St Everild:
If you would trust me with your address (not your RL name) I'll gladly send you a card...
Oh, me too!
And me. Let us know the date so we can make sure they arrive in good time.
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I'll send a card!
you've taken the week off. can you do something crazy like go on a holiday to some sunny resort, or attend a weekend retreat, or a short cruise?
the benefit of something like this is that they regiment your time to some extent, so it can keep you from wallowing in depression. plus you're forced to socialize in a way that everyone is feeling awkward so it's an even playing field.
for me, I'd hunt down a week long or weekend long yoga retreat. is there something like that you've always wanted to try? a spiritual retreat, a introduction to bungee jumping, a mountain climbing course, a guided backcountry hike, something?
I think that would be great fun, shake you out of your comfort zone, create great memories, and short-circuit the self-pity cycle.
or, similar to Firenze's wardrobe clean-out idea, how about a full day makeover? spa time, new hairstyle, make-up consult, and wardrobe consult? it will cost, but the fun of it is coming out the other side feeling all re-invented.
it really is okay to spend money on yourself. Birthday or not.
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Kitten
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My next birthday is not a significant one but my Son has promised me a helicopter ride round the Pembrokeshire coast as a gift. It'll be the first birthday I will have anticipated with anything but dread since I left my thirties.
Would something like that appeal?, or perhaps a balloon ride?
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ElaineC
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I'd be delighted to make a card for you.
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Abigail
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Thank you so much for your replies. You're a lovely lot of people!
I was feeling incredibly depressed when I posted but since then I've spent this afternoon helping at a church event, which didn't do anything to solve the birthday problem, but at least got me out into the sunshine and amongst other people and made me feel a little bit better. (I'd offered to help a couple of weeks ago and the organiser said she’d email me but by yesterday she hadn't and I assumed I wasn't wanted – however she sent an email just after I went to bed last night!)
My birthday is actually this coming Wednesday and as it looks as if the weather might stay nice I've decided to have a day at the seaside. I booked the train ticket tonight so now I can’t change my mind. Well, I can, but I won’t now I've paid for the tickets!
Thank you for all the suggestions.
Firenze – I've actually done two of the things you suggest recently – sorted out my clothes and took them to the charity shop and repainted my kitchen (and yes, it was exhausting!)
St Everild – tea at the Ritz is something I’d love to do but couldn't bring myself to do it on my own.
And everyone else – thank you for all the comments, suggestions and advice. I've read and considered them all.
And thank you those of you who offered to send cards. It doesn't feel right somehow to send you all my address but it’s such a kind thought and I really, really appreciate it.
I love the idea of a shipmeet, and have often wondered if it's something I could ever do but I find the thought very scary. I'm no good at talking to people, have never been able to make friends and I think most people think I'm a bit odd. The Hampstead walk sounds really good… perhaps if I'm brave enough I could try it. If I can summon up the courage I'll post on that thread…
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Abigail
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Sorry, just to add: thank you those who sent me PMs. I've just found them. I will reply but I'm really slow with this sort of thing.
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Jengie jon
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Here is what you do, you have a shipmeet to have tea at the Ritz. I bet you will have some takers.
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Ariel
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Not everybody's into spicy food. Is there a pub at the end of the Hampstead walk, or a tea shop or something?
Abigail - hope you thoroughly enjoy your birthday outing! I'll think of you on Wednesday and wish you well.
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comet
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Originally posted by Abigail:
My birthday is actually this coming Wednesday and as it looks as if the weather might stay nice I've decided to have a day at the seaside. I booked the train ticket tonight so now I can’t change my mind. Well, I can, but I won’t now I've paid for the tickets!
attagirl!
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Originally posted by Abigail:
I love the idea of a shipmeet, and have often wondered if it's something I could ever do but I find the thought very scary. I'm no good at talking to people, have never been able to make friends and I think most people think I'm a bit odd. The Hampstead walk sounds really good… perhaps if I'm brave enough I could try it. If I can summon up the courage I'll post on that thread…
I've never "met" any of our London Shipmates, but I still feel perfectly comfortable in saying that they will take you in hand, put you at ease, and show you a good time.
Yes, it's awkward. do it anyway. you'll not regret it!
besides, "a bit odd" means you'll fit right in. these are your people!
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Curiosity killed ...
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Well, I'd happily go along to tea at Tate Modern as an option, the restaurant on the 6th floor, but I am about to hit no pay for five weeks, so I'm a bit reluctant to do anything hugely expensive.
And yes, a pub meal is on the agenda for the Hampstead walk.
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I'd be happy to send a card from San Francisco.
I turned 60 a month ago. I actually had two lovely meals on the day. One friend remembered and invited me for dinner. Another I called to let her know we were having breakfast that day, and the reason. I've decided to stop waiting for people to do things like remembering my birthday. I'm having more fun this way.
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Tree Bee
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I turned 60 a month ago too.
Having been in a blue funk when I was 40 and again when I was 50, this birthday was enjoyable.
Mainly because I've realised it's just a number, and it shows the world that I am still here!
Mr Bee has come through a life threatening illness, and my best friend died 12 years ago, so I now appreciate what I have.
It helped that I had afternoon tea at the Victoria Empress, and I did that because that's what I had dreamed of doing while accompanying my husband through his treatments.
Do what you dream of doing.
And a shipment would be good too.
We are all a bit odd btw.
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RuthW
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Originally posted by comet:
besides, "a bit odd" means you'll fit right in. these are your people!
comet beat me to it. We're talking about shipmates here!
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Pigwidgeon
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Originally posted by comet:
I've never "met" any of our London Shipmates, but I still feel perfectly comfortable in saying that they will take you in hand, put you at ease, and show you a good time.
I can confirm this -- I had a lovely time just about a year ago at a Shipmeet when I was visiting London.
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Deputy Verger
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Happy Birthday for Wednesday, Abigail,
Don't be put off by the idea of organising a London shipmeet. Just say when you want to do it and whether you prefer a pub or a walk or a restaurant or a tea shop or whatever blows your hair back (and which side of the river), and one of us will start the thread and make it happen. You just have to show up.
At any shipmeet there are always some people that some people are meeting for the first time - and it is often the guest of honour who doesn't know the Londoners, as No Prophet and Pigwidgeon have attested up-thread. We've had small informal meets with both of them in recent months.
It sounds like you've got The Big Day sorted now, with a trip to somewhere coastal - but do be assured we would love to meet you in real life when it suits you!
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I was recently invited to High Tea at a swank hotel for someone's 60th - just a small table of us - and it was fun to spoil ourselves a little. The surroundings provided plenty of comment from all of us and a nice photo to remember it.
You could buy a packet of seeds on your birthday, and plant out 60 of something. Whatever grows, give away when opportunity arises. Whenever you feel that you have "accomplished nothing" in your 60 years, remember that every small act of kindness makes a difference to the world.
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I hope you have a wonderful birthday, and send you best wishes from this little corner of the Shippiverse.
Remember, 60 is the new 40!
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I have a big decade birthday coming up and I've started a "Bucket List". I've been on a helicopter ride (over the Grand Canyon).
Now looking for a Zipline and jumping out of a plane. Also I want to go up in a balloon.
Looking forward to doing fun things is good. Age is just a number and I can say this because I am a lot older.
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Augustine the Aleut
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One of the useful things about shipmeets is that one can say as little or as much as one chooses.
My 60th involved no parachute jumps-- three of my exes cooked me a very nice multi-course multi-bottle lunch while the young daughter of one of them played the cello for us. Having outlived a number of relations I take the perspective that one should make more of one's birthdays, the fewer one has in front of one.
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Pigwidgeon
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My 60th was so low-key it was practically non-existent, but that was fine with me since my 40th was terrible and my 50th was the birthday from hell.
However... my 65th will be in a few years, and I intend to celebrate in a big way!
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Abigail, hope you have a great birthday. From experience, I'd say that Shipmeets are a good way of making new friends - we've been to 4 or 5, and have become good friends in real life with some of the shipmates we've met.
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cattyish
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Originally posted by Pigwidgeon:
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However... my 65th will be in a few years, and I intend to celebrate in a big way!
Keep us posted!
Cattyish, loves to see pictures.
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The Intrepid Mrs S
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Originally posted by Pigwidgeon:
My 60th was so low-key it was practically non-existent, but that was fine with me since my 40th was terrible and my 50th was the birthday from hell.
However... my 65th will be in a few years, and I intend to celebrate in a big way!
I doubt anyone could beat my 50th birthday though.
Does September 11th 2001 ring any bells?
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Piglet
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Crikey, Mrs. S. - that was unfortunate. I'm reminded of someone saying on the day of Princess Diana's funeral (which was a Saturday) - "don't you feel really sorry for anyone getting married today?"
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Evangeline
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Abigail, i can appreciate how you feel but for God's sake woman pull yourself together and go to a bloody ship meet.
You are blessed that you post something and ppl pop out and invite you out to tea. STOP wasting time and bloody go, many would be extremely envious of the opportunity. You will only have yourself to blame if you don't do something, even if it's not on your actual birthday, it'll be something to look forward to.
This is totally said in love but pull your finger out, time's a tickin.
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Kelly Alves
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![[Eek!]](eek.gif) (Salutes Evangeline)
(But she's right-- do it.)
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Jesus loves me, this I know” of they don’t believe “Kelly loves me, this I know.”
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Sarasa
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Do come on the Hampstead walk, or if you can't make that, I'm sure we can organise another shipmeet shortly. It's about time for another trip to the India Club methinks.
I was 60 last year, and decided that it would be a year of celebration. In the end I didn't do a great deal, so I've extended it to a decade of celebration instead.
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JoannaP
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quote:
Originally posted by piglet:
Crikey, Mrs. S. - that was unfortunate. I'm reminded of someone saying on the day of Princess Diana's funeral (which was a Saturday) - "don't you feel really sorry for anyone getting married today?"
It wasn't too bad for us - at least it means we get reminded of our significant anniversaries - but I did hear of one couple whose wedding was interspersed with prayers for the deceased.
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Abigail
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quote:
Originally posted by Evangeline:
Abigail, i can appreciate how you feel but for God's sake woman pull yourself together and go to a bloody ship meet.
You are blessed that you post something and ppl pop out and invite you out to tea. STOP wasting time and bloody go, many would be extremely envious of the opportunity. You will only have yourself to blame if you don't do something, even if it's not on your actual birthday, it'll be something to look forward to.
This is totally said in love but pull your finger out, time's a tickin.
You’re absolutely right, and I will try, I promise!
I had a really rubbish day yesterday (Sundays usually are these days unfortunately ) but I'm off out now to buy myself something to cheer myself up. And tomorrow I'm meeting my old school friend for coffee (the one I mentioned in my OP) so hopefully the week will be a bit better than I feared.
Again, thank you so much for all the replies and suggestions.
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Pomona
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Surely tea at the Ritz, like anything else frequently ruined by having to make conversation (cinema, theatre, going for a coffee), is at its best when alone?
But then I love dining alone and find it odd that it's such a taboo!
No big birthdays for me for a bit (25th was this year) but my 18th was fun - Shrove Tuesday so all the pancakes!
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