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Arghh what are we single christian ladies suppose to do!!!

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Originally posted by Jade Constable:
Are there better sites for UK Christians?

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Arghh what are we single christian ladies suppose to do!!!

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I was about to suggest "Fifty Shades..." but I've just checked and, oh dear, Leviticus 20:28 reads

"And lo, didst I mention reading of racy books? Didst I not? Oh bother, yea verily that sort of thing shall be wicked too"

Besides, since when did a book bring you a cuppa in bed or give you a shoulder rub?

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Are there better sites for UK Christians?

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Originally posted by Jade Constable:
I know there has been a dating topic but what about specific Christian sites? I know of Christian Mingle but it seems to be mostly American evangelicals and not much for a high Anglican gal in the Midlands - I have no objection to a relationship with an evangelical, but many would have a problem with having a relationship with a non-evo. Have tried secular dating sites with not much success. Are there better sites for UK Christians?

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Originally posted by infinite_monkey:
Hey folks! We've got a designated singles thread for whinging and commiserating and advising and such: look in Heaven under "A Truth Universally Acknowledged".

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Originally posted by jedijudy:
A long time ago, we had Tigglet's Dating Agency. Several threads worth, as I recall.

Unfortunately, I can't seem to find any of them, just references to some of the success stories.

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Worst. Date. Ever. I specifically asked for a nice guy who knew how to treat a woman, and was easy on the eyes; did they ever screw that up! If you ask me, it's a shame that such a beautiful cathedral is stuck with such a hideous creature as its bellringer.

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Originally posted by jedijudy:
A long time ago, we had Tigglet's Dating Agency. Several threads worth, as I recall.

Unfortunately, I can't seem to find any of them, just references to some of the success stories.

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Worst. Date. Ever. I specifically asked for a nice guy who knew how to treat a woman, and was easy on the eyes; did they ever screw that up! If you ask me, it's a shame that such a beautiful cathedral is stuck with such a hideous creature as its bellringer.

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Originally posted by piglet:
As someone who's been happily married for 24 years, I'm probably not really qualified to opine on this thread, but every time I see an advert for Christian Mingle ("Find God's Match for You!") I can't help thinking, if they're Christians looking for a mate, why don't they just go to church?

It's where I found my Better Half ...

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Originally posted by Jade Constable:
I do go to church, but I'm 23 and all the men are married and 50+

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Originally posted by piglet:
As someone who's been happily married for 24 years,

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'Fess up. What's the total number of years you've been married?

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Originally posted by littlemiss:
Hah, I'm so glad to see this. I was going to join Christian Mingle yesterday but I tried three times and every time is booted me out so I gave up in the end.

I don't know of any others and I too tried a secular one - not a good experience!

I am just over 40 and everyone is married in my church or the single men are far too old. Arghh what are we single christian ladies suppose to do!!!

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Originally posted by Shire Dweller:
I've been reluctant to post on this thread, I don't want to annoy anyone.

I've had a little experience of Christian Connection and it is a good site, if you're a man.
As soon as I joined the site, I received 4 messages from very attractive Christian women who all seemed to be serious about finding 'the one'.
Receiving messages so quickly was a little unnerving but at first my confidence grew, thinking I had been contacted because I was attractive. But that wasn't it at all. I get the impression that there are far more Christian women seeking relationship than there are Christian men seeking relationship.

I went as far as to meet one woman within a week of being contacted, even though I felt it was all a bit too fast and I realised I wasn't being genuine with her or anyone else that might contact me, so I left the site.
I also found it to be a minefield of etiquette when contacted by several women as to whether I should talk to them all at the same time. I didn't think it would be right of me.

If on-line dating is approached with genuine sincerity, I think it works for people. But I personally found it to be too stressful and pressured.
I'm an introvert who lacks confidence so its better to put the time in and build up a friendship first, surely.

Besides, Christian women should be the ones doing the choosing from amongst many suitors.
I, as an averagely attractive early 30's man, should not be doing any choosing.

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Originally posted by Shire Dweller:
I've been reluctant to post on this thread, I don't want to annoy anyone.

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Originally posted by Jade Constable:
I'm not sure why you feel you shouldn't be doing any choosing because you're a man - Christian women outnumber Christian men.

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Originally posted by Aravis:
I've no experience of dating agencies, but if your church has very few people in your age group, maybe you should try out other social activities? A curate I know met her fiance through the choir we both sing in.

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As someone who's been happily married for 24 years,

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Originally posted by Jade Constable:
Well, I'm at university - there's no shortage of social activities with people my age, there's a shortage of Christians within them.

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Well, I'm at university - there's no shortage of social activities with people my age, there's a shortage of Christians within them.

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Don't assume that. I never darkened the doors of the University CU in my four years of study, but I'm still Christian.

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Are you sure the women contacted you for reasons other than your attractiveness? And I'm not sure why you feel you shouldn't be doing any choosing because you're a man - Christian women outnumber Christian men.

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sorry, previous post just a joke. a bit insensitive perhaps. apols.

why would you annoy anyone?

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Originally posted by SvitlanaV2:
With the decline of Methodism, the URC and MOTR Anglicanism, it's unsurprising that CU has become more dominated by evangelicals. Maybe someone ought to create a more moderate ecumenical university society. It won't rival CU in numbers, but it'll give other Christians somewhere to go.

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Originally posted by Shire Dweller:

Its because I saw a good friend get very hurt by the 'Do not yoke yourself' thingy that I feel sceptical that Christians should only ever possibly form relationships with other Christians.

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I've got really muddled thinking about relationships...

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Are you sure the women contacted you for reasons other than your attractiveness? And I'm not sure why you feel you shouldn't be doing any choosing because you're a man - Christian women outnumber Christian men.

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Of course I cant be sure of their reasons
I was assuming that some women restrict themselves too much to men who self-identify with the label of “Christian” I think this is prevalent amongst certain Evangelical circles who major on 'Do not yoke yourself to an unbeliever' etc. Which is fine advice, but it might be better to let God move in life and even in relationships He might guide to somewhere other than expected (without the Christian label).

The 'shouldn't be choosing' line was a bit throw-away. I haven't got a good reason for saying it.

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sorry, previous post just a joke. a bit insensitive perhaps. apols.

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No worries, I didn't take it as insensitive at all :-)
I just felt I might annoy if I express less than rosy views of “Christian” dating.


... I completely understand why a 'Christian' partner is so appealing, but I just don't want people to end up getting hurt (like a friend of mine did) by insisting on getting a 'Christian' partner, so they turned down suitable non-Christian potential partners (and they knew those potential matches were suitable, but just lacked the 'Christian' label) only to form a relationship with someone claiming to be 'Christian' who subsequently hurt my friend very badly.

Its because I saw a good friend get very hurt by the 'Do not yoke yourself' thingy that I feel sceptical that Christians should only ever possibly form relationships with other Christians.

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With the decline of Methodism, the URC and MOTR Anglicanism, it's unsurprising that CU has become more dominated by evangelicals. Maybe someone ought to create a more moderate ecumenical university society. It won't rival CU in numbers, but it'll give other Christians somewhere to go.

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SCM was the liberal/ecumenical society and many CUs split off from it originally.

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Originally posted by L'organist:
Without wishing to sound completely wet, but where's LOVE in all this.

As for meeting people, try the Encounters section in The Times.

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Originally posted by L'organist:
Without wishing to sound completely wet, but where's LOVE in all this.

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Well, I would date someone before falling in love with them, surely? And I don't read Murdoch papers

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Well, I would want to only be in a relationship with another Christian. That's not to say that a relationship with a Christian can't end badly, of course it can, but for women looking for someone to settle down with and especially have children with, it makes sense for that person to share their faith. Don't forget that women have a shorter amount of time in which to have children than men do. I'm far from an evangelical but I would still not want a relationship with a non-Christian - it wouldn't matter what kind of Christian, but a shared faith is a value I want in a partner.

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Jade, I'm really not calling into question the desire for a Christian partner. I completely appreciate where your view is coming from. And I'm certainly not questioning the basic human need for intimate, committed relationship.

And of course, any Christian wouldn't want a relationship with someone anti-Christian. Especially with someone seduced by the certainties offered by what the cool kids all think the cleverest people don't believe.

I suppose (in a muddled way) what I'm driving at is that Christian dating sites are good, but Christians need to go into dating and relationships with their eyes open. And if people are minded to read this website, you've probably got at least one eye open...

Another suggestion I'd give is “Friends 1st”. I read the back page interview with its founder or manager(?) in the Church Times in May. They're more of an 'old-style' dating agency (not on-line profiles as such) and try to offer a matching service with a more personal (indeed Christian) touch. Although I dont know anyone that's used them.

... As for not reading Murdoch papers, I've stopped reading any (other than the beloved Church Times)....

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