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Johnny S
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There is no such requirement on this side of the pond. A wedding is a private event here. There are no laws regarding where or when it happens.
That's interesting. Thanks.
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Does that change anything about the point you're arguing?
Possibly, but only to the extent that an American definition of marriage is seen to be normative for the rest of the planet.
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Johnny S
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Originally posted by mousethief:
From your failure to answer my question after my last asking, despite having answered many other people since then, shall I assume that you admit you are unable to, Johnny S?
No, take it that I tried three times and finally gave up.
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Could you repeat your question to JohnnyS, mt? There has been so much discussion in the last page or so and having a brain like a sieve, I've lost track. Thanks. ![[Smile]](smile.gif)
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Of course a marriage is public. If the existence of the marriage is not advertised in SOME way, then how is anyone to avoid unknowingly breaking up the marriage?
Public/private is not a useful dichotomy here. The decision to enter (or exit) a marriage is private. The existence of a marriage is public.
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Originally posted by Johnny S:
My contention is that (I think I read it somewhere) technically speaking 'no fault divorce' still doesn't exist even now in the UK. As you said earlier, something to do with the legislation being there but never been used or something like that.
I don't know much about the British legal system and what I know is now out of date so I'd appreciate your comment on this.
In essence: once a Bill (proposed law) is approved by both Houses of Parliament and rubber-stamped by the Queen (Royal Assent) it becomes an Act. It is on the statute books and (technically) part of UK law.
However Acts commonly have a provision which says when they 'come into force', and actually start applying to real life. Very often this provision says something like "the Secretary of State for Administrative Affairs may by order provide for this Act to come into force". The relevant minister can then issue a piece of secondary legislation, that doesn't need to go through Parliament, which activates some or all of the Act. Sometimes, that's all the Commencement Order will say: "Sections x,y and z of the Silly Walks Act 2010 come into force on the 1st of April 2012". Sometimes it happens as part of a much larger set of regulations (which can be much longer than the original Act) which details more precisely how the law will apply. And there can be multiple orders, for different parts of the Act in different parts of the UK. It might be several years after the passage of the Silly Walks Act 2010 that the Silly Walks (Licensed Gaits) Regulations and Commencement Order No.7 (Northern Ireland) 2016 appears.
The relevant parts of the Family Law Act 1996 are not in force, and may never be. So they have no formal influence on the resolution of divorces in the UK. That said, the way cases are actually decided these days is much more 'no fault' than it used to be. Bad behaviour is rarely if ever a factor in financial orders, which are based on need and contribution more than anything, and even in child custody disputes (which I know less about) conduct is only relevant as far as it affects the interests of the child, not as a reason to reward or punish a parent. So while there is still a Petitioner and a Respondent, and the Petitioner always and the Respondent sometimes alleges formal grounds for the divorce (adultery, unreasonable behaviour, separation of 2 years by consent or five years regardless), it very rarely makes any difference who says what about whom.
Personally, I suspect that if I am ever divorced I will feel rather aggrieved at the fact that my (no doubt) blameless conduct is not formally vindicated at my ex-wife's expense, but I do see the considerable pragmatic advantages of not litigating over every detail of domestic flaw of every marriage that ever fails.
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Johnny S
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Originally posted by orfeo:
Of course a marriage is public. If the existence of the marriage is not advertised in SOME way, then how is anyone to avoid unknowingly breaking up the marriage?
Public/private is not a useful dichotomy here. The decision to enter (or exit) a marriage is private. The existence of a marriage is public.
I don't think it is that simple.
I'm quite comfortable with the fact that often traditions linger on well after the time when they were meaningful. The public declaration of vows at a wedding is different though (ISTM). If you are correct about the way marriage is viewed n Australia (and I have no reason to doubt you) then it seems that our custom for weddings is not just redundant but deliberately misleading.
The question I keep asking is this - why bother including public vows in a wedding ceremony if there is zero intent for the vows to be public?
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Johnny S
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Originally posted by Eliab:
The relevant parts of the Family Law Act 1996 are not in force, and may never be. So they have no formal influence on the resolution of divorces in the UK. That said, the way cases are actually decided these days is much more 'no fault' than it used to be.
Thanks - that was what I was after.
So, is it fair to say that the legal position in the UK is currently very different to the US and Australia but heading in the same direction as them?
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Bad behaviour is rarely if ever a factor in financial orders, which are based on need and contribution more than anything, and even in child custody disputes (which I know less about) conduct is only relevant as far as it affects the interests of the child, not as a reason to reward or punish a parent. So while there is still a Petitioner and a Respondent, and the Petitioner always and the Respondent sometimes alleges formal grounds for the divorce (adultery, unreasonable behaviour, separation of 2 years by consent or five years regardless), it very rarely makes any difference who says what about whom.
Personally, I suspect that if I am ever divorced I will feel rather aggrieved at the fact that my (no doubt) blameless conduct is not formally vindicated at my ex-wife's expense, but I do see the considerable pragmatic advantages of not litigating over every detail of domestic flaw of every marriage that ever fails.
I think that you've got where I'm coming from, but just to be sure - I'm not advocating the punitive use of divorce law or trying to encourage litigation.
I'm not discussing making it harder to get divorced but rather wondering what responsibility or role society should play when a marriage breaks down. What does it mean, in practice, that a marriage is public? I'm posing that question because I believe it strikes at the heart of the definition of marriage in the first place.
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Originally posted by orfeo:
Of course a marriage is public. If the existence of the marriage is not advertised in SOME way, then how is anyone to avoid unknowingly breaking up the marriage?
Public/private is not a useful dichotomy here. The decision to enter (or exit) a marriage is private. The existence of a marriage is public.
But the existence of a marriage is more public than any other contract surely? That's what the debate about the other perennial deceased equine is about: there's something about marriage that is different from a normal contract, or else that debate could be solved by couples simply making a contract with a ceremony alongside it.
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TonyK
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Hmmmm ...
We seem to have drifted rather a long way from our original subject - Headship.
While discussions about marriage and/or divorce are very interesting, they seem to have almost entirely occupied the last page or two, to the detriment of the thread.
Back to the subject please - but feel free to start a new thread on these new topics, though probably not in Dead Horses.
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Brief but interesting legal tangent: I'd forgotten that UK Acts can 'sit on the books' in this way. This used to be possible in Australia as well, but at some point someone (a Senator I think) got a bee in their bonnet about it.
Standard procedure here, now, is for an Act of Parliament to impose a 6-month limit on the delay: if a start date isn't proclaimed by the Executive within 6 months, then the legislation will just go ahead and start automatically. If a Bill introduced into Parliament proposes a longer limit (as happens very occasionally), it'll be questioned as a matter of course as to why and the Government better have a good answer ready.
Bills sometimes make commencement contingent on some other event, eg commencement of an international treaty. So there are a few cases where an Act might lie dormant for a long period, but this is definitely unusual and will have to be explained as the Bill is introduced.
I know that's a tangent off a tangent, but I thought it might be interesting. Well, interesting to me anyway... ![[Hot and Hormonal]](icon_redface.gif)
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Originally posted by Lyda*Rose:
Could you repeat your question to JohnnyS, mt? There has been so much discussion in the last page or so and having a brain like a sieve, I've lost track. Thanks.
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Crœsos
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Originally posted by orfeo:
Of course a marriage is public. If the existence of the marriage is not advertised in SOME way, then how is anyone to avoid unknowingly breaking up the marriage?
Public/private is not a useful dichotomy here. The decision to enter (or exit) a marriage is private. The existence of a marriage is public.
The confusion comes from the way JonnyS has (deliberately?) conflated a couple different definitions of the term "public". Marriages are "public" in that they're recorded by the state for practical reasons similar to reasons the state holds records of the ownership of private property or the birth and death records of private citizens. This does not make it a "public contract" in the way the term is normally used (i.e. a contract where the state is one of the contracting parties, like hiring a contractor for road paving). Making the argument that the state is a contracting party in every marriage and can thus take legal actions on its own initiative seems relentlessly intrusive.
I notice JonnyS still hasn't addressed my question on the implications of such a position. If the state is a contracting party that can assert its interest in the continuation of a marriage contrary to the wishes of the other contracting parties (the couple seeking a divorce), does it not logically follow that the state can also assert its interest in the termination of a marriage contrary to the wishes of the other contracting parties? The level state intrusion possible by classifying marriage as a "public contract" (a contract with the state) instead of a "public record" (records maintained by the state and available to the general public) seems not just massively counterproductive but also contrary to the way most couples see their marriages.
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Originally posted by Leprechaun:
But the existence of a marriage is more public than any other contract surely?
The most publically visible contract in England at the moment is Thierry Henry's two month loan back to Arsenal. We practically got blow-by-blow action replays of the agents and the lawyers negotiating it.
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TonyK
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Ahem!!!
Please note my recent post.
Thank you
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So the way that the husband should express his ‘being head of his wife’ is by self-sacrificial servant headship, being prepared to do the lowliest job in the world for her, as Christ did when he washed the feet of his disciples.
Right, that's just the same bullshit line despots and tyrants have been peddling for centuries. ...
Do you have any evidence of despots and tyrants quoting: ‘Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her’ (Eph 5:25) in support of their despotic tyranny?
Even if there was evidence, it would be a logical fallacy to deduce that therefore anyone who quoted any part of Eph 5:22-33 in support of godly headship by a husband is a despot. That’s the same logical fallacy as saying ‘Swans are white, this bird is white, therefore this bird is a swan.’ when there are other white birds as well as swans. There are other people as well as despots and tyrants who quote the Bible. As I said: “If people distort Biblical teaching to achieve their own agendas, don’t blame the Bible.” and add: Not everyone who quotes the Bible does so to achieve their own evil agenda.
And also, there’s the rather more subtle possibility that despots and tyrants have quoted the Bible’s teaching (while failing to put it into practice) in order to discredit Biblical teaching in the eyes of people who fall for the logical fallacy which I have explained above.
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So God's direct commands for how you're supposed to live you life are totally optional? Good thing Christianity doesn't contain any severe warnings about what happens to those who disobey the commands of its deity.
My point was that the wife’s compliance with God’s command is up to her conscience before God, not up to the husband to enforce, as can be deduced by a careful reading of my words that you quoted. And supported by Josephine’s post quoting Chrysostom: “He says it's a good thing for a woman to choose to obey her husband, but it's shameful for a man to demand obedience from his wife.” (Thank you Josephine )
Another point which can be gleaned from this Biblical passage is that the husband is the head of the wife. It is a statement of fact, not dependent on the agreement of either the wife or the husband. Just as Christ being head of the church is a statement of fact, not dependant on the agreement of the church. So the husband and wife each have the choice to acknowledge this fact, or ignore it.
Now, what would be an interesting continuation of the discussion would be to look at the relationship between Christ and the church as described in the biblical account, in order to understand more about the example Christ sets for the godly headship of a husband, and how it would be put into practice.
I’ve only just had this as an idea, so I don’t have many examples yet. One possibility is God’s initiative-taking in showing love
– to the whole world John 3:16:17
and to the church 1John4:19.
So the example is for the husband to take the primary initiative in ensuring the marital relationship is a loving one. I have encountered many examples of wives who struggle with their marriages because they find that they are the ones who have to take all the responsibility for relationship maintenance – the husband just doesn’t show any inclination to do so. All that wifely dissatisfaction would be eliminated by a husband who modelled his headship on Christ’s. I wonder if there are other examples...
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Well (and forgive me if I posted this 5 years ago), my godmother when my godfather jokingly said, "hey, I'm the Head! You have to obey me!" would respond, "Die for me. Then we'll talk".
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Belle Ringer
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Well (and forgive me if I posted this 5 years ago), my godmother when my godfather jokingly said, "hey, I'm the Head! You have to obey me!" would respond, "Die for me. Then we'll talk".
I'm intrigued how many of my "conservative" married friends interpret "die physically to save her life physically" as the sole obligation of husband to wife. Seems to be men who definitely would take a bullet to protect the wife, but until that breath-ending event believe it's the wife's job to serve the husband's life.
Seems to me if you want to read the Bible as imposing a "headship" structure, the husband's job is to "die daily" as Paul said elsewhere, give up pursuing his best life day by day, pursue instead the best life for his wife. Be her daily servant looking out for her best good no matter what it costs him and his plans for his life.
Which is what Jesus did. He didn't just physically die for us on the cross, his every day was a surrender of his life for our benefit, he taught for us, showed us by example how to live, healed physically and relationally.
We've had centuries of teaching that women give up their lives -- their interests, their careers, their friends and homes, even their names -- to follow the man in his choices he thinks best for his interests, instead of men giving up their lives for their wives.
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Crœsos
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Originally posted by Laura:
Well (and forgive me if I posted this 5 years ago), my godmother when my godfather jokingly said, "hey, I'm the Head! You have to obey me!" would respond, "Die for me. Then we'll talk".
I'm intrigued how many of my "conservative" married friends interpret "die physically to save her life physically" as the sole obligation of husband to wife. Seems to be men who definitely would take a bullet to protect the wife, but until that breath-ending event believe it's the wife's job to serve the husband's life.
Seems to me if you want to read the Bible as imposing a "headship" structure, the husband's job is to "die daily" as Paul said elsewhere, give up pursuing his best life day by day, pursue instead the best life for his wife. Be her daily servant looking out for her best good no matter what it costs him and his plans for his life.
Which is what Jesus did. He didn't just physically die for us on the cross, his every day was a surrender of his life for our benefit, he taught for us, showed us by example how to live, healed physically and relationally.
We've had centuries of teaching that women give up their lives -- their interests, their careers, their friends and homes, even their names -- to follow the man in his choices he thinks best for his interests, instead of men giving up their lives for their wives.
I'm not sure your description of Jesus is accurate. According to standard Christian mythology on this matter, Jesus did one weekend of hard work, after which He expected everyone else to give a lifetime of obedience. Sounds like a traditional* Christian definition of marriage to me!
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I've been slowly reading through this, and am currently stuck on page 11.
But the idea of headship seems to be premised on the idea that ALL men are completely different from ALL women in every measurable way which is important for character, personality, and, perhaps if it can be measured, soul. Omitting such things as height, shoe size and so on which may not be relevant.
However, if those obvious, measurable and apparently irrelevant things are considered, it becomes obvious that there are considerable overlaps between the members of either set. Any random woman may well be taller than any random man, though as a whole, the average height of women is shorter than the average height of men.
Extended to measurable and perhaps relevant characteristics such as intelligence, strength, or speed in running, the same applies. There are a largish number, though less than half, of men, who are less clever, strong or fast than the average woman.
So, if all women were married, and had, as in the past, little choice as to their husband, a number would end up with husbands who were shorter, stupider, and weaker than they were, and they would be compelled to accept the headship of this person because of some unmeasurable and not particularly obvious spiritual difference which has no external sign and is only founded in a document written a long time ago.
But then, there are obvious but unmeasurable characteristics which might be indicators of a spiritual status which could be recognised in headship, and might outweigh the effects of differing intelligence. (I was once advised by a male colleague to hide my intelligence in order to attract a partner. I'm still single.) These would be shown by behaviour, perhaps.
In men I have known, the more different they are from me in outlook, the less they have seemed to be likely to be described as having spiritual values. This is obviously subjective, not to mention circular, but a tendency to regard large blobs of fat below the neck as more important than the blob above the neck was one such indicator. An inability to discuss anything serious in a sensible way was another. Laddish behaviour does not incline me to regard them as having headship potential. There seem to have been very few men who seemed to be real mensch - and they were already married. I'm not surprised at the women who target married men, though I wouldn't approve of them. I'm not surprised at the married women who regard the single as a threat.
Which set is responsible for most violence and abuse? Not to excuse women completely - there are some who can be pretty destructive, but to accept that men as a whole are somehow better than women as a whole and deserve to be regarded so without any behavioural indicator for the individual seems perverse.
I would expect God's expectations to be grounded in reality and the needs of his children and demonstrably true, and I don't think this particular idea measures up to that. Hs failure to provide me with anyone to be Petruchio to my Kate endorses this.
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Originally posted by A.Pilgrim:
Another point which can be gleaned from this Biblical passage is that the husband is the head of the wife. It is a statement of fact, not dependent on the agreement of either the wife or the husband. Just as Christ being head of the church is a statement of fact, not dependant on the agreement of the church. So the husband and wife each have the choice to acknowledge this fact, or ignore it.
It was a fact when Paul was writing. That society exepcted men to be in charge, and that was that. In our culture, and in many others it is not a fact. Therefore the husband and wife each have the choice as they read Paul to decide whether he intended to impose this fact on society, or to reflect the facts of his society as he discussed the issue.
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Originally posted by Penny S:
But the idea of headship seems to be premised on the idea that ALL men are completely different from ALL women in every measurable way which is important for character, personality, and, perhaps if it can be measured, soul...
I would expect God's expectations to be grounded in reality and the needs of his children and demonstrably true, and I don't think this particular idea measures up to that. Hs failure to provide me with anyone to be Petruchio to my Kate endorses this.
Yes the idea is that women are by being female less valid human beings than males, spiritually weaker, various "church fathers" so called have said women are inherently defective. Many a "Christian" writer or theologian has insisted Adam was the innocent victim of Eve, that Eve caused the fall, all sin is caused by women.
We see this in cultures that blame a woman for being raped, any woman who is raped obviously must have enticed him by the way she was dressed, or by wearing nail polish, the 5 year girl flirted and asked for it, men are innocent victims of women, men sin only when women force or beguile them to sin. That is the attitude of fallen male.
But read books like Romans, Paul keeps blaming Adam! Adam sinned. From the first Adam, the fall, from the second Adam, the restoration. No mention of Eve causing the fall.
If you really want to distinguish between male and female you'd have to say Adam sinned by choice, Eve was deceived, neither will do one's soul good. NOT Adam was innocent victim of Eve's being deceived, but Adam voluntarily sinned. In my book, although in the extreme both can cause death, if you have to choose between the two, open rebellion is far worse than confusion. Confusion can be retaught truth, rebellion refuses truth.
Throughout the Bible both females and males know God, respond to God, lead others in God's ways, including the woman prophet in the OT you NEVER hear mentioned in church, Hulda, who saved her nation spiritually by verifying the lost scriptures they had found. Jeremiah was in the area, it wasn't reliance on a woman because "women are second rate but I guess it's all we've got," it was reliance on a known reliable spokesperson for God, this one just happened to be female.
Throughout the Bible both males and females ignore or reject God, lead others away from God's ways, far more men than women are portrayed as misleading others or turning away from God, perhaps because men were more often in the leadership positions from which they could lead others astray, but there is no reason from the OT to believe males spiritually superior to women.
Which raises a question why a tiny number of NT passages belittle women not for any moral fault but just for being female, a tiny number of passages disagreeing with all the OT and most of the NT. When in doubt go with the vast majority, especially go with what examples show, not with generalized theoretical wording. Paul never treated women, married or un, as spiritual inferiors.
Satan has silenced and beaten down half the church with centuries of male-aggrandizement interpretations of the Bible.
No you don't need a man to be complete. Nice to have around, they think differently, we need each other in our lives to broaden our viewpoints, but spiritually we are each, male and female, made in the image of God.
(I could playfully use the Bible to show that women are spiritually superior to males, but I won't, because even if it were true as opposed to both genders being spiritually equal in God's eyes, anyone looking to consider themselves spiritually superior has just proved themselves spiritually inferior, right? The men who claim spiritual superiority over women are proving themselves wrong.)
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Originally posted by Belle Ringer:
Yes the idea is that women are by being female less valid human beings than males, spiritually weaker, various "church fathers" so called have said women are inherently defective. Many a "Christian" writer or theologian has insisted Adam was the innocent victim of Eve, that Eve caused the fall, all sin is caused by women.
We see this in cultures that blame a woman for being raped, any woman who is raped obviously must have enticed him by the way she was dressed, or by wearing nail polish, the 5 year girl flirted and asked for it, men are innocent victims of women, men sin only when women force or beguile them to sin. That is the attitude of fallen male.
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Satan has silenced and beaten down half the church with centuries of male-aggrandizement interpretations of the Bible.
Yep, it's wrong to blame women for their own oppression or abuse at the hands of men. The real culprit is . . . SATAN! ![[Roll Eyes]](rolleyes.gif)
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Originally posted by Penny S:
a tendency to regard large blobs of fat below the neck as more important than the blob above the neck
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We see this in cultures that blame a woman for being raped, any woman who is raped obviously must have enticed him by the way she was dressed, or by wearing nail polish, the 5 year girl flirted and asked for it, men are innocent victims of women, men sin only when women force or beguile them to sin. That is the attitude of fallen male...
Satan has silenced and beaten down half the church with centuries of male-aggrandizement interpretations of the Bible.
Yep, it's wrong to blame women for their own oppression or abuse at the hands of men. The real culprit is . . . SATAN!
Sorry, old language from back in my charismatic days.
Satan, satanic, evil, anti-God, I don't believe there is a character named Satan who runs around in a red suit with a pitchfork, but there is some sort of negative spiritualty, of which I use "satan" as a shorthand.
I guess there are some here who deny there is any negative spirtuality, or any spirituality of any kind. Nevertheless, half the church has been silenced by the bogus claim that males are superior to females, and that teaching is evil because of the negative effects on individuals, relationships, churches, and societies.
Better wording?
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But the idea of headship seems to be premised on the idea that ALL men are completely different from ALL women in every measurable way which is important for character, personality, and, perhaps if it can be measured, soul. Omitting such things as height, shoe size and so on which may not be relevant.
I'm not sure that's necessary, from a strictly logical point of view (disclosure: I do not subscribe to the headship idea). All that's necessary is that all men are completely superior from all women in some ineffable quality we can call headshiposity. The problem is that nobody can say exactly what that is, how it's measured, or even detected, and so on. It seems to boil down to, "God just said so," which in turn is based on a certain reading of certain passages of Holy Writ.
Needless to say not all of us read those certain passages the same way.
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orfeo
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The interesting thing about this 'headshiposity' being that it has no particular correlation with traits such as good character or moral fibre. Which I think is the nub of Penny's argument.
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The interesting thing about this 'headshiposity' being that it has no particular correlation with traits such as good character or moral fibre. Which I think is the nub of Penny's argument.
I could swear I answered this yesterday. Anyway, yes, I agree. One would at least think those things would be good to have in a "head," and lack of them might disqualify one from headship.
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orfeo
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I could swear I answered this yesterday.
Sorry, didn't really mean to suggest that you hadn't!
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I could swear I answered this yesterday.
Sorry, didn't really mean to suggest that you hadn't!
No, it's not you. The thing I thought I had posted isn't here. I'm just cracking up.
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Penny S
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a tendency to regard large blobs of fat below the neck as more important than the blob above the neck
Quotes file.
Thank you.
It has only just occurred to me the relevance of those men who made a point of ignoring a female skull and its contents to the concept of male headship. If a female is virtually headless, the male has to be the head.
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those men who made a point of ignoring a female skull and its contents
I used to work with (young) men who had some (low level) security clearance I didn't. They would tell me all sorts of things they shouldn't, including passwords, because after all "girls" were too stupid to be able to remember or use the info. Good thing I was disinclined to mis-use the info! This was back in the 60s, when males were "men" but females were still "girls."
Recent new foundation, election of officers, what did they suggest I be? Secretary. Huh? I have experience at the duties of chair and vice chair, I can't read my own handwriting so no way can I take minutes. Result -- I'm not an officer at all. Fine with me, I get to do less work.
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So what does a male-headship concept look like, lived out in a modern Western marriage?
Soon as I accomplish it, I'll call y'all and invite you to come watch. ![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif) Meanwhile, it's not too difficult to deal with the attempt, when you have a man suitable for the position.
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Penny S
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Actually, I think "ignoring" was the wrong word. I'm not sure what the right one is. "Ignore", it seems to me, contains an element of deliberate behaviour, of having gone through a mental process of recognising something and then choosing not to take cognisance of it.
I had the impression, in retrospect, that a number of the young men simply had no idea that what was in women's heads was similar to what was in their heads. Then again, maybe that is wrong.
When I finally realised why I was attracting men who did not seem to see me, I was going to suggest that their minds resided somewhere very much smaller than the places they thought important in me. That was when they stopped, though, so I never got to make my cutting remark.
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