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Anselmina
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Originally posted by Anselmina:
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As introvert with little small talk, i find the hand-shaking nauseating if i am the minister at the back. But i make myself do it if i have been upfront.
Gordon Bennett, leo. 'Nauseating'? You find it sick-making showing brief friendly interest in the people you've just ministered God's grace to? By all means dislike it, or find it boring, or not worth your while - but 'nauseating'? You don't, in fact, need any 'talk'; just smile, look them in the eyes and give them a handshake to prove that their presence in church that morning means something!
As another introvert with little small talk, I can totally understand feeling a slight feeling of nausea -- a nervous nausea, not an about-to-throw-up nausea -- at the prospect of having to exchange a couple of sentences with a large number of people in a short amount of time.
Well, I think I can understand that, all right. I guess I was thinking more of nauseating as 'disgusting', or being disgusted by.
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I don't know whether leo was thinking of nauseating as 'disgusting' or in the sense that Basilica describes. I think as an introvert who has learnt over years to act the part of an extravert (common for many priests) I've got over the nausea, but I can sympathise. It's the artificiality of the queue at the door which I find difficult.
It's a bit similar to the sharing of the Peace. I'm glad that it has become a regular part of most eucharistic liturgies, but when I am in a strange church I always feel a sort of 'nausea' (though butterflies in the stomach would describe it better) before it and feel oddly relieved if it doesn't take place. That's my inner shy introvert and gut feeling; my head, and my heart, want to share.
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Huh.
It's funny but when a couple of cradle RC friends of mine (one Polish, 'tother Irish) joined me for worship at an Anglican cathedral, the thing that they found most unusual was the queue to shake hands. They wondered if it was a blessing of some kind - I had to explain that it was just a rather formal way of being friendly, and that one Always Does It.
Does anyone know how far back it goes? In costume dramas one always sees Mr. Collins greeting each worshipper outside the church porch, with levels of bowing and scraping appropriate to their respective stations, but I think we all know it is not always wise to trust television in this respect! Would it actually have been common in Britain in, say, the eighteenth century? Earlier?
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Originally posted by dj_ordinaire:
Does anyone know how far back it goes?
Is it connected with another Anglican custom - the retiring collection?
One of the reasons I have doubts about the line-up is that it encourages worshippers to think they have just attended a performance by the clergy ("lovely service Vicar") rather than a shared liturgy.
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Originally posted by Anselmina:
You don't, in fact, need any 'talk'; just smile, look them in the eyes and give them a handshake to prove that their presence in church that morning means something!
That's all it is for me: a moment of direct person to person contact between minister and members of the congregation at the end of the service. It's not a problem for people to slip past if they want to. No conversation is required, just a smile and a handshake. if there's not much of a queue then there can be a word or two, an enquiry about health or family, for example (or, for visitors, where they're from, how the holiday is going etc.)
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Even when I have deliberately positioned myself at the church door in order to catch everyone, I've managed to miss a few key people. Normally I've settled for hovering somewhere around the back of church so that people can catch me if they want or I can catch them, allowing plenty of space for others to escape.
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Originally posted by Anselmina:
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Originally posted by leo:
As introvert with little small talk, i find the hand-shaking nauseating if i am the minister at the back. But i make myself do it if i have been upfront.
Gordon Bennett, leo. 'Nauseating'? You find it sick-making showing brief friendly interest in the people you've just ministered God's grace to?
Wrong choice of word - i use 'nauseating' as a catch-all phrase for anything i don't like doing. I seriously forgot the literal meaning of the word. I am not so self-conscious(and hopefully secure enough) as to find anything sick-making.
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Anselmina
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leo, fair enough. I think I understand what you mean a bit better, then.
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Anselmina
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Originally posted by dj_ordinaire:
Does anyone know how far back it goes? In costume dramas one always sees Mr. Collins greeting each worshipper outside the church porch, with levels of bowing and scraping appropriate to their respective stations, but I think we all know it is not always wise to trust television in this respect! Would it actually have been common in Britain in, say, the eighteenth century? Earlier?
It would be interesting to know if Samuel Pepys had any remarks for the vicar as he left the church!
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I just now asked Google "why do we shake hands with clergy" and bumped into a web page from a Greek Orthodox church saying "We never shake hands with a clergy...[shaking his hand would] express that we do not recognize his power of forgiving sins and blessing...."
It talks about kissing the ring (but doesn't mention doing anything at the exit door).
Is shaking the clergyperson's hand a Reformation invention? If so, I wonder who started it, Luther? Calvin? Other?
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The choir are lucky, we have a separate exit. Not many of us use it; most of us are sociable. But there have been occasions when it has been awfully useful....
In a church where the choir exit came out into the main exit, but after the 'handshake bottleneck', we were harangued sometimes over his shoulder by the vicar with "there goes the choir, being unsociable again'. We would have to have queued up to get back in to be 'sociable'. Anyway the coffee was down to the dregs by then and the biscuits were all gone. ![[Frown]](frown.gif)
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Originally posted by Belle Ringer:
I just now asked Google "why do we shake hands with clergy" and bumped into a web page from a Greek Orthodox church saying "We never shake hands with a clergy...[shaking his hand would] express that we do not recognize his power of forgiving sins and blessing...."
I think that the author overstates the case but now I come to think about it, I would almost certainly find it unusual to shake the hand of a priest. I'd never considered it before.
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It talks about kissing the ring
What ring? ![[Confused]](confused.gif)
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Some months after I arrived at my present church, a lady came to me and said that I was being unfriendly because I never shook her hand at the church door. I was puzzled by this.
A few weeks later, I realised that she always used our other door and so never passed me. However, as far as she was concerned, it was still my fault!
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Originally posted by Baptist Trainfan:
Some months after I arrived at my present church, a lady came to me and said that I was being unfriendly because I never shook her hand at the church door. I was puzzled by this.
A few weeks later, I realised that she always used our other door and so never passed me. However, as far as she was concerned, it was still my fault!
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A neighbouring church to me is situated between a posh residential estate and less posh terrace housing. The posh people use one door and the unposh the other. I have it on good authority that within living memory the vicar always used to stand at the former door, and the curate at the latter. ![[Disappointed]](graemlins/disappointed.gif)
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The Scrumpmeister
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Perhaps the vicar felt that the apparently wealthier people were more in need of experienced spiritual guidance: eye of a needle and what not.
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My parents always told me that it was bad form to slip down the side aisle and skip the pastoral handshake. I think perhaps they were afraid of not being "counted" that way and winding up getting the dreaded Pastoral Visit.
Our church's dismissal is chaos -- after the "Thanks be to God" there's a stampede out the door, then a bottleneck as everyone tries to have a Deep and Meaningful conversation with the pastor -- DP and I tend to maneuver our way out the side door as quickly as possible.
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I have great sympathy for said vicar. More than likely he had no choice in the matter, or was making the best choice he could. (For instance, by not upsetting the established practice, the offerings coming in from the regulars might have funded charitable mission within the parish. If this were a known sticking point and he had messed with it, he might have known that the 'voting' would have occurred with a decline in revenue that would upset the church's mission work.)
ETA: Lutheranchik, I remember clearly the "dreaded Pastoral Visit." Coffee and refreshments were well-known to be expected, and all member households were visited at least once a year. ![[Help]](graemlins/help.gif)
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We have one of those extremely musical congregations where most people sit down and listen attentively to the postlude. The kids and other people who don't like standing around or want to get first crack at the goodies or the restroom usually leg it at that point. The clergy are handing their vestments to my altar guild compatriots so sometimes a fast and determined person makes it out the door before they get to their posts in the narthexes. The greeters are supposed to open up during the last hymn.
I am not always so successful at evading the line when I am a visitor and not interested in standing around (I have a slightly gimpy knee).
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Last time I went to a parish RC mass, the priest was by the door and shock my hands and we exchanged polite words.
At my previous church, I always went into the church hall for tea - which was off the main nave - so I was never part of any queue. I think the vicar just hang around at the back and chatted to anyone as appropriate. (He'd always introduced himself to any strangers in the congregation before the service.)
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Originally posted by dj_ordinaire:
Huh.
It's funny but when a couple of cradle RC friends of mine (one Polish, 'tother Irish) joined me for worship at an Anglican cathedral, the thing that they found most unusual was the queue to shake hands. They wondered if it was a blessing of some kind - I had to explain that it was just a rather formal way of being friendly, and that one Always Does It.
Does anyone know how far back it goes? In costume dramas one always sees Mr. Collins greeting each worshipper outside the church porch, with levels of bowing and scraping appropriate to their respective stations, but I think we all know it is not always wise to trust television in this respect! Would it actually have been common in Britain in, say, the eighteenth century? Earlier?
In the eighteenth century the congregation would have fecked off sharpish as they would have been frozen and hungry, and the priest would have headed home to thaw out and eat lunch. The "Sociables" would have been dealt with in the every day process living in a village. The formal line up at the back of the church is relatively modern (and tediously essential!)
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I know some churches, which are part of a larger group, where the vicar has to run away a soon as the service ends, so that they can reach one of the other churches in time for the Eucharistic prayer.
I came across one in the Lake District, where there was a designated driver for the clergy, who had the car ready and waiting, to drive the vicar the several miles to the next church. This priest had 4 Communion services on a Sunday and never got to shake a hand.
It may be a solution for those who do not like handshaking to find a church like this…
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In my opinion, the clergy should be available to talk at the end of a service and make the effort to at least say "good morning" to a new face.
However, if people want to slip away without saying anything to you then this should be quite clearly acceptable and not "being rude".
Where the priest stands in relation to the door avoiding, "pouncing" on people etc. can make this half-way house possible...
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The secret is to have two doors.
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Originally posted by Bax:
In my opinion, the clergy should be available to talk at the end of a service and make the effort to at least say "good morning" to a new face.
However, if people want to slip away without saying anything to you then this should be quite clearly acceptable and not "being rude".
Where the priest stands in relation to the door avoiding, "pouncing" on people etc. can make this half-way house possible...
I think this is what I'm getting at - at the moment the clergy basically block the exit, and when there's more than one cleric, it immediately looks like a wedding line-up: even less natural.
I think it makes me uncomfortable because I feel we are making things awkward for those who would rather make a discreet exit. Those who want to talk to us will always find us, especially if we're near the door without actually intercepting everyone trying to use it. It's a challenge, though, in a small church that doesn't have a 'standing around' area except the central aisle - pews all the way to the back, door halfway down the side.
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Alan Cresswell
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Why not remove some pews by the door to provide space for the handshake, with space for others to get past.
The churches I have been members of have always had the minister* at the back shaking hands. At two of these churches that's been the door to leave the church building, with a door at the front of the church leading through to the halls and coffee, so only those who are not staying for coffee get the handshake on exit (the minister, if not going on elsewhere, then does the rounds over coffee). At the other churches there are either no alternate exits (except fire escapes) or they're basically not used and everyone passes the minister. Both have enough space in the church for people to mingle and chat before leaving so a queue rarely forms. There's enough room at the exit to get past, I frequently walked back and forth past the minister while he was shaking hands (if, for example, I was colleting communion glasses and taking them to the kitchen or simply chasing children). It doesn't actually require much room for that to happen - just the width of double doors is enough. Providing there's space for people to mingle so there isn't a mad rush for everyone to get to the tea and gossip time.
* or, whoever was leading worship (ie: preaching).
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Originally posted by Sacred London:
The secret is to have two doors.
Well marked alternative exit, for fire safety. ![[Smile]](smile.gif)
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Some breeds of honeybees include 'fragrancy bees' whose task is to take a position at the entrance to the hive, beat their wings continuously, and emit a gentle fragrance. Bees seeking to find their way back to the hive are assisted in this way, both by fragrance and by some sort of sonar signal emitted by the beating wings.
Now, I am not certain that clergy are, or should be particularly redolent, but certainly, their action in shaking hands is somewhat similar to the action of a bee beating its wings.
So I, for one, always try to greet people on their way into the church, as well as on the way out, in the hopes that this action will help those seeking the church to find it through God's mysterious interaction, using me as a sort of bewildered sonar conduit.
For a more direct display, try serving seedless watermelon to the congregation, under a shade tree on the front lawn of the church on summer Sunday mornings. To passersby, you will, or should look something like a Norman Rockwell painting, and perhaps they will want to be part of that.
[added a little watermelon fragrance]
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Alan Cresswell
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I know that when I'm leading worship I'm not able to greet everyone as they come into church. For a start, with young children, I can't be there as early as some people (it would be unfair on the kids to have them hang around longer than necessary). And, probably similarly with most preachers, I want to spend a few minutes quiet before starting - and that's after checking with the church secretary that there's no member of the church I need to mention specifically in intercessions, that the person reading the Scriptures is there and going to read what I've prepared for, that I know who will be assisting with Communion (not that it really matters, but it's good to know there will be someone and I won't have to take the elements around the church myself!), and a range of other practical matters that mean I can't be there to welcome the last few people into church. That's before we come to the issue of the rare occasion of people arriving after I've got to the front and said "Good morning" to the whole congregation.
Of course, we have other people who give everyone a friendly "good morning" and hand shake, along with a hymn book, as they come in. I've not heard them buzzing, but maybe I should pay more attention on Sunday.
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Panda: And most crucially, when you're the minister, the awareness (I find personally) that there are a number of people who would rather sidle past, or nip out a different door, or being new, feel embarrased at being made to shake your hand and come up with something to say.
The church I visited as a child, had three doors. Most people would have 'fixed' places where they would sit every week, and consequently a fixed door where they would get out.
This lead to a kind of rotation scheme, where the preacher would shake hands at a different door every Sunday. It was actually part of the announcements, like: "Today the preacher will shake hands at the East door"!
I would always make sure I'd exit the church through a different door. If I'd want to talk to the preacher or shake his hand, I'd find other moments to do that.
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I would always make sure I'd exit the church through a different door. If I'd want to talk to the preacher or shake his hand, I'd find other moments to do that.
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![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif) As in, 'Vicar, I'd like to shake your hand. You free about five o'clock next Wednesday?'
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That's before we come to the issue of the rare occasion of people arriving after I've got to the front and said "Good morning" to the whole congregation.
The rare occasion! Is that a denomination or Hadrian's Wall related difference? In my experience half or more of the congregation arrives after the start... especially those with children.
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It might be a "my choice of church" thing. For the last few years we've been the family with children, and very rarely not there with enough time to settle in before the service starts. Our last church had a 10am service, and was only a couple of minutes walk. Our current church has an 11.30 service (same pastorate as the last, so time for the minister, when we get one, to get from one church to the next) and so getting there on time is no difficulty at all - although it does tend towards a more rapid departure past the hand shake as people want lunch. We visited a CofS place the other weekend while away, and again for a 10am service if people did arrive late they were very discrete in coming in and sitting in the couple of pews behind us (the only people I was aware of moving around back there were the stewards who'd been on the door).
Before moving here I was in Methodist Churches in Liverpool and Watford. In both cases it was rare for people to arrive late (but common enough that door stewards didn't close the doors and enter the church until the first hymn just in case). Both those were larger congregations than any I've been part of here, so it may be a size thing.
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It is pretty common here for folks to drift in up to the Gospel. However, a slight discouragement to this practice is provided by the fact that the doors are closed during the first hymn, so it is difficult to sneak in after that.
Most churches I have ever been in have had one or two chronic stragglers. This rose to about a quarter of the congregation when the parish I then lived in changed to doing the notices at the beginning of the Parish Eucharist. The Vicar was one of those types that run off at the mouth. The notices would take 10-15 minutes, and as the main service was stupid early - 09.30 - the parishioners took the opportunity for another cup of tea, or an extra 10 minutes in bed before church.
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We have people arriving up to an hour after the start. Most are in in the first ten minutes, but there have been Sundays with twice as many communicants as were present at the 10.30 kickoff.
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We have one particular family, who for the sake of argument (and because that's what they're called) we'll call the Munros, who always arrive 25 minutes late for Mass, which - this being the Catholic Church in England - lasts just under the hour. When ai've been not on duty, I've been up the road for a paper after the 10:30am Mass has started, only to see them in Costa ordering a coffee before tootling down the hill just in time to miss the homily.
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I was always under the impression that you had to be present by the reading of the Gospel to fulfil Sunday obligation, and to be able to licitly receive the Eucharist?
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The secret is to have two doors.
Well marked alternative exit, for fire safety.
Not helpful when you have two (or more) priests. Ours split up to cover all of the doors.
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mettabhavana
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"We never shake hands with a clergy...[shaking his hand would] express that we do not recognize his power of forgiving sins and blessing...."
[RANT]That's the most bizarre piece of twaddle I've read in many a long week (and my day job serves up plenty of twaddle!)[/RANT]
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Japes
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Originally posted by Bax:
However, if people want to slip away without saying anything to you then this should be quite clearly acceptable and not "being rude".
I think this is part of the problem, for me. There are differing standards of what constitutes rude.
I have been told at church today I am considered rude for not wanting to exchange the Peace with everyone, and am now seriously considering slipping out to the porch to wait until the Peace is over. I was so taken aback, I couldn't say "Well, I consider it rude to tap me on the arm, then when I've not moved, shove your hand under my face, when I'm sitting with my head down for the purposes of not having to shake hands with more than five people."
I did, for once, stop to exchange a few words with the vicar on my way out, and as I usually do go out the "Other Door" to avoid the long, tedious queue. it was a quick question, that required a Yes or No answer. Anything longer, I get in contact with the clergy on another day.
Sighs deeply...
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Originally posted by PataLeBon:
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Originally posted by Belle Ringer:
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Originally posted by Sacred London:
The secret is to have two doors.
Well marked alternative exit, for fire safety.
Not helpful when you have two (or more) priests. Ours split up to cover all of the doors.
They really don't want you to get out except on their terms!
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Lamb Chopped
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Anybody gives you crap for not shaking hands, look them straight in the eye and say one word:
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Arthritis
Idiots.
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Originally posted by Trisagion:
We have one particular family, who for the sake of argument (and because that's what they're called) we'll call the Munros, who always arrive 25 minutes late for Mass, which - this being the Catholic Church in England - lasts just under the hour. When ai've been not on duty, I've been up the road for a paper after the 10:30am Mass has started, only to see them in Costa ordering a coffee before tootling down the hill just in time to miss the homily.
Och, naughty Scots. And to think, I felt badly about arriving (despite my very best efforts) at last night's vigil Mass just as the homily began because I'd missed the Gospel. I'd been working, and I stayed to the end (well, the dismissal anyway - the post-diss "hymn" was ghastly) and communicated, but wondered if I'd really fulfilled my obligation. I was almost thinking of making an evening Mass today to make sure...
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Zacchaeus
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I'm CofE and I was tought that you had to be for the confession and absolution to take communion.
I know somebody who was refused communion (this was a few years back) because they arrived after the absolution.
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Zacchaeus
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I do know people both CofE and RC, who think that worship is purely about taking the sacrament and do not take any other part of the service seriously. Maybe the Munroes are of this persuasion?
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I tend to set up shop at the door before church and then again after. You gotta talk to me going both ways. But then, there are several doors to the church, so if you want to avoid me it's pretty easy.
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Originally posted by Zacchaeus:
I'm CofE and I was tought that you had to be for the confession and absolution to take communion.
I know somebody who was refused communion (this was a few years back) because they arrived after the absolution.
I was taught that too, though my parish minister would have been just as happy to hear one's confession after Evening Prayer on Saturday. As a result I have tended to refrain from using a liturgy where the general confession and absolution are moved up front, thoug I personally think that that arrangement is structurally better.
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Originally posted by Lamb Chopped:
Anybody gives you crap for not shaking hands, look them straight in the eye and say one word:
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Arthritis
Idiots.
I do like to hold up a wadded/preferably snotty tissue in one hand, and wave apologetically with the other! (Of course, I only do this when I am sick.)
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