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Invictus_88
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Funny. When I heard a gay man boasting he could 'turn' a straight one, nobody batted an eyelid.
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Originally posted by Invictus_88:
Funny. When I heard a gay man boasting he could 'turn' a straight one, nobody batted an eyelid.
Probably because he wasn't saying so as part of a very profitable scam playing to people's fears and desperation.
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orfeo
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Originally posted by Invictus_88:
Funny. When I heard a gay man boasting he could 'turn' a straight one, nobody batted an eyelid.
Classic gay fantasy. Partly based on the notion that a lot of 'straight' guys are in truth closeted homosexuals or bisexuals.
However fantasy-based it is, there's an element of truth in it. It doesn't tend to work the other way simply because the notion that an outwardly homosexual person is in truth a closeted heterosexual ignores the direction of societal pressure. The pressure is to pretend to be heterosexual, not to pretend to be homosexual when deep down inside you know you're straight.
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Yes, as it turns out, the results of efforts to change sexual orientation are uneven and temporary in both directions.
(Potentially NSFW)
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There used be a very silly woman at Sydney Uni - she called herself an academic, but it was in only in something like sociology - who said that any woman could be taught to enjoy sex with another woman. She must have had tenure to carry on as she did, and I suspect that she wanted to do the teaching herself. But if she were correct, surely the opposite could be achieved???????
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Donne, Donne, Donne.
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Something that must be a common experience to those who post here. When discussing homosexuality with those of differing viewpoints, there seems to be confusion about what it is. A close relation of mine is a Jehovah's Witness and cannot seem to believe that homosexuality is not a choice (as I believe). It seems as though there is a fixation with the sexual act, instead of any acknowledgement of emotional attraction, union and even love between two people of the same sex. Recalling earlier posts having sexual relations with a member of the same sex does not make one a homosexual or indeed vice versa. I think as Christians we over emphasise a great deal about physical sexuality, when a lot of the time that is not the most important part of the issue at hand.
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crynwrcymraeg
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Originally posted by Donne, Donne, Donne.:
Something that must be a common experience to those who post here. When discussing homosexuality with those of differing viewpoints, there seems to be confusion about what it is. A close relation of mine is a Jehovah's Witness and cannot seem to believe that homosexuality is not a choice (as I believe). It seems as though there is a fixation with the sexual act, instead of any acknowledgement of emotional attraction, union and even love between two people of the same sex. Recalling earlier posts having sexual relations with a member of the same sex does not make one a homosexual or indeed vice versa. I think as Christians we over emphasise a great deal about physical sexuality, when a lot of the time that is not the most important part of the issue at hand.
Amen to this.
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krsnv
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a case of timing and who its concerning as with partnerings and marriages but in a relatively more involved way perhaps ? . ..
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Justinian
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Originally posted by Gee D:
There used be a very silly woman at Sydney Uni - she called herself an academic, but it was in only in something like sociology - who said that any woman could be taught to enjoy sex with another woman. She must have had tenure to carry on as she did, and I suspect that she wanted to do the teaching herself. But if she were correct, surely the opposite could be achieved???????
I'm not sure she's wrong. But that's because I think almost any woman (or man for that matter) can be taught to enjoy sex with their own right hand. But if you need to think of your partner as a substitute for your right hand, the relationship's going to go screwy fast.
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Penny S
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Justinian, you raise the appalling possibility of yet another form of abomination splitting people asunder. Left handers.
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orfeo
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Justinian, you raise the appalling possibility of yet another form of abomination splitting people asunder. Left handers.
Funny, because I brought that up this morning on the fast-and-freewheeling Youtube comments for the new Australian marriage equality campaign.
And I did it precisely because handedness WAS seen, for a very long time, as some kind of moral issue. People were expected to be right handed, regardless of their natural inclination. They were forced to perform activities with their right hand against their brain's own desire to use the left hand. There's a strong argument that a significant proportion of 'ambidextrous' people are left-handers who were pressured by society into using their right.
Also, there is apparently a higher incidence of left-handedness amongst homosexuals. The two traits are somehow linked - I would assume genes that are physically near each other on one of the chromosomes, though I don't know if the science has got as far as establishing that.
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Originally posted by orfeo:
And I did it precisely because handedness WAS seen, for a very long time, as some kind of moral issue. People were expected to be right handed, regardless of their natural inclination. They were forced to perform activities with their right hand against their brain's own desire to use the left hand.
Yes - my husband was forced to use his right hand as a child, and whacked with a ruler if he tried to use his left.
Very similar attitudes to those who say homosexuality is a 'choice'.
Yes, my husband could 'choose' to use his right hand - but it went against the way he was wired, and the people asking him to do so had no good reason except superstition.
A good analogy.
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Alogon
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I can hardly imagine a man's calling his homosexuality a choice. But some women do say that they chose to be Lesbians. Are we supposed to doubt their word?
It seems to me that male and female homosexuality are two different phenomena. We must at least bear the possibility in mind. There is no reason to think otherwise, beyond the fact that we use the same word for both.
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orfeo
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Originally posted by Alogon:
I can hardly imagine a man's calling his homosexuality a choice. But some women do say that they chose to be Lesbians. Are we supposed to doubt their word?
It seems to me that male and female homosexuality are two different phenomena. We must at least bear the possibility in mind. There is no reason to think otherwise, beyond the fact that we use the same word for both.
I'm sure a bisexual woman can choose whether to be with a woman or be with a man. I don't think the gender of your current partner equates with 'being a lesbian'.
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No, it is true that there are women who say that being lesbian is a choice - they put forward the idea that it is a conscious and positive decision. It's a bit of a feminist thing - about women having power to make conscious choices. Which would lead me to believe that differences between gay men and gay women are a lot to do with cultural views about gender, and reactions to those. It's more shameful for a man to be seen as gay, because it is seen as effeminate, and females are traditionally seen as weaker than men. Whereas for a woman to be lesbian, it can be seen as a power thing - that she is competing with men for power. It's not despised in the same way.
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Fineline
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Although I don't think it's exclusively gay women and no gay men who argue this. It's a whole movement, with its own arguments and philosophies, rather than just a few individuals claiming it was a choice for them personally: http://www.queerbychoice.com/
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Originally posted by Alogon:
I can hardly imagine a man's calling his homosexuality a choice. But some women do say that they chose to be Lesbians.
Not any of the lesbians I've ever known or dated.
If you're thinking of some of the more hardcore feminist activists who dated women as a political statement, then that seems to me to be the equivalent of forcing yourself into a hetero marriage for religious reasons, and just as misguided.
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orfeo
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Well, they'll have to explain to me why anyone would deliberately choose to spend their life being hated and despised. I sure as hell wouldn't, and yet, here I am.
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the Pookah
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Actually I've read about sexual fluidity in women, some finding it later in life and I'm not surprised. It's only for the last 2,000 years we've restricted our sexuality.
In the pre-christian classical world men routinely had sex with men & women. Women had sex with men & women. In our current culture f/f sex is considered 'hot' so it's okay & women demonstrate sexual fluidity; if the same attitude were shown to men I'd bet we'd be seeing it.
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orfeo
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There's a difference between sexuality and actual sexual activity.
Sexuality is a spectrum, and in a society where both homosexual sex and heterosexual sex are equally viable options, it wouldn't surprise me in the least if a great many more people fell somewhere on the spectrum such that they were, to a greater or lesser degree, bisexual in practice - having sex with both men and women because their attraction is not solely to one or the other.
But in the society we actually live in, until very, VERY recently, people were pushed into one choice over the ohter.
I have a hard time with anyone claiming to 'choose to be a lesbian'. What they might choose is to be with a woman, having spent their life up to that point being with a man and possibly taking a long time to consider they might have any other choice available.
Lots of gay men chose to spend their lives with a woman because they didn't think they had any choice. But to describe that as 'choosing to be straight' would be an absolute nonsense in my view.
Frankly, the people who usually suggest that I chose to be gay are the ones who think that this was a wrong choice.
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Donne, Donne, Donne.
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Orfeo
Wonderfully put.
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ThunderBunk
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Orfeo, I'm just going to say "God told me to tell you that you need the love of a good woman*" and run!
* this may not necessarily reflect the views of the writer....
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Lyda*Rose
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orfeo: quote:
Frankly, the people who usually suggest that I chose to be gay are the ones who think that this was a wrong choice.
If you hadn't chosen it, you couldn't be blamed, and blame has to be assessed when sin happens. Q.E.D.
Although, come to think of it, I didn't choose to be born under the cloud of Original Sin either, yet somehow, in some people's eyes, I am to blame because I can't follow through on a choice to be perfect. I have to be saved from the nasty fate arranged for those who could not refrain from sin i.e. just about everybody but the Son and perhaps the Mother.
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the Pookah
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Orfeo; I've met a women who says it was a choice. Maybe she looked at the available men & thought 'I could find a much nicer woman & I'll go for it.' I can't judge her by my experience, as I've always been lesbian, just not out.
Since I'm a buddhist I never get the; 'then choose to be straight'argument so perhaps your pov is in response to that. Really when they tell you that, why not reply 'then you choose to be completely celibate.' That is the Christian ideal & being sexual is a choice! I bet those hypocrites with find a million excuses ![[Biased]](wink.gif)
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orfeo
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Originally posted by FooloftheShip:
Orfeo, I'm just going to say "God told me to tell you that you need the love of a good woman*" and run!
* this may not necessarily reflect the views of the writer....
If she didn't want sex and was willing to do a good share of the housework, she WOULD be a good woman!
*runs in the other direction, away from irate feminists*
EDIT: It should be noted, for my purposes, a 'good man' would also involve someone who does the housework. Because I'm appalling at it.
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orfeo
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...or someone who is at good at organising ME into doing the housework is also acceptable.
Sorry, I've just spent a day discussing my personality and work preferences, so it's on my mind. Highly relevant to explaining why my desire for organisation usually doesn't translate into action to produce it. I should take this discussion to a decent gay dating site, but I'm not sure one exists.
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the Pookah
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Oy the irony of what you've written! We can have gay liberation but it goes hand in hand with male privilege.... ![[Roll Eyes]](rolleyes.gif)
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...or someone who is at good at organising ME into doing the housework is also acceptable.
Sorry, I've just spent a day discussing my personality and work preferences, so it's on my mind. Highly relevant to explaining why my desire for organisation usually doesn't translate into action to produce it. I should take this discussion to a decent gay dating site, but I'm not sure one exists.
When you find one, let me know. There must be a good one out there some where....
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orfeo
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Originally posted by the Pookah:
Oy the irony of what you've written! We can have gay liberation but it goes hand in hand with male privilege....
It was supposed to be ironic.
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the Pookah
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Yeah as a woman I feel the irony, It's amazing that men seem unable to organize, hoover the carpets, or do the dishes whilst women gay or straight split the jobs & get them done.
but then again we're not ashamed to do -
women's work
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orfeo
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Well actually, there are plenty of men who can do those things. I'm just not one of them.
EDIT: Well actually I do the dishes. Most days, anyway. I'm not eating off dirty crockery or out of cardbox boxes. I also manage to cook most of the time and don't run out of clothes. But maintenance of the cleanliness of the house, as opposed to myself, is not one of my skills.
I don't attribute that to my gender, but you appear to have missed what I thought was reasonable clarification after the initial joke.
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ThunderBunk
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Originally posted by orfeo:
Well actually, there are plenty of men who can do those things. I'm just not one of them.
EDIT: Well actually I do the dishes. Most days, anyway. I'm not eating off dirty crockery or out of cardbox boxes. I also manage to cook most of the time and don't run out of clothes. But maintenance of the cleanliness of the house, as opposed to myself, is not one of my skills.
I don't attribute that to my gender, but you appear to have missed what I thought was reasonable clarification after the initial joke.
the Pookah, I was aiming at a slightly mischievous comment to the effect that the terrible affliction of male homosexuality could magically find its cure at the same time as Orfeo's difficulties with domestic chores. If the out and out sarcasm of this (bearing mind that I have made little secret of my own homosexuality and indeed of the fact that I am indeed male) fails to come across, some adjustment of detectors may be required.
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Back in the 80s I had a friend who chose to be a lesbian as a political statement, and she said many other women were doing the same. I've never asked her about her experience, but she's been happily partnered with a man for a long time now. Equally, I haven't heard of anyone doing that in recent years. Was it a part of 80s feminism, does anyone know?
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One of the people higher up than me professionally (so, not someone I wanted to quiz about her personal life) once joked that lots of feminists wanted to sleep with her in the 1980s, as a consciousness-raising thing, and that they seemed to evolve into straight women who championed natural childbirth and ran National Childbirth Trust classes in the 90s.
Certainly "consciousness-raising" was part of 80s feminism, but whether this often involved sex with another woman, I don't know.
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Aelred of Rievaulx
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I am still musing on the "change is possible", "gay is a choice" nonsense.
I did my damndest to be straight (because I was terrified of being gay) and was married for 30 years. I stayed faithful in that marriage until almost the bitter end, but that is another story.
The reality that confronted me was that I had the capacity to respond sexually to one woman for quite a long time, but that I never had any real sexual interest in women per se.
Men, on the other hand, were what I had trained myself not to look at or admire, and what my fantasy life was full of.
I read that according to Exodus International, change is
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"attaining abstinence from homosexual behaviors, lessening of homosexual temptations, strengthening their sense of masculine or feminine identity, correcting distorted styles of relating with members of the same and opposite gender."[
I had no problem with my gender identity. My relationship with my father was and is good and loving. I was never sexually molested by a man as a child. So that was no problem.
I did the abstinence.
But it was a total failure and nearly led to my killing myself. I only started to feel like myself and healthy when I finally came out - to myself, and then to everyone else.
And lastly - I had a great sense of shame and guilt. Not for being gay, but while I was repressing everything it made me feel bad about being me. It messed up how I thought about myself, and God, and impacted on my relationship with everyone else. The day the shame went was the day I had the honesty to acknowledge that I was gay and that was all there was to say.
I may not be a very good Christian yet, but at least I know that whatever I am, I am really me now.
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orfeo
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Originally posted by Aelred of Rievaulx:
And lastly - I had a great sense of shame and guilt. Not for being gay, but while I was repressing everything it made me feel bad about being me. It messed up how I thought about myself, and God, and impacted on my relationship with everyone else. The day the shame went was the day I had the honesty to acknowledge that I was gay and that was all there was to say.
I may not be a very good Christian yet, but at least I know that whatever I am, I am really me now.
Amen.
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Three-fold Amen !
(Used to love singing that in the choir as a kid at service end )
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I've just had a horrendous evening arguing with my church group, who refuse to acknowledge that - however much they are 'loving the sinner, and not rejecting anyone' that to believe that living in a loving relationship with another person who is of the same gender is intrinsicly sinful, is perhaps, perchance, a bit damaging to the people in a relationship. Because where is their happy outcome?
We move the goalposts ALL THE TIME so why not for this one? Anyway, on here, somewhere, long ago I think I found a link to a website that made me feel better. Can anyone please help me find it again because I might have to jack in the whole church concept if I can't believe again that the real church - the one Jesus founded - isn't overly concerned with who one has a loving relationship with, so long as they are fighting injustice, feeding the hungry, caring for the sick and sick at heart, working for the community and loving the lord their god, being a light in the world and salty and so forth, at the same time.
cheers.
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I am probably not your best source of information, being a hetero Christian that doesn't care if his friends are LGBT or not: but a couple of links I have found useful for people who are not that easygoing are:
Real Live Preacher's I have no title for this (look also at the link early in the post).
and Rev Janet McCuneed's blog A Time to Embrace , though I think she is now doing more Facebook than blogging.
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Taliesin
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Thanks. Good one, that rlp.
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quote:
Originally posted by Taliesin:
I've just had a horrendous evening arguing with my church group, who refuse to acknowledge that - however much they are 'loving the sinner, and not rejecting anyone' that to believe that living in a loving relationship with another person who is of the same gender is intrinsicly sinful, is perhaps, perchance, a bit damaging to the people in a relationship. Because where is their happy outcome?
We move the goalposts ALL THE TIME so why not for this one? Anyway, on here, somewhere, long ago I think I found a link to a website that made me feel better. Can anyone please help me find it again because I might have to jack in the whole church concept if I can't believe again that the real church - the one Jesus founded - isn't overly concerned with who one has a loving relationship with, so long as they are fighting injustice, feeding the hungry, caring for the sick and sick at heart, working for the community and loving the lord their god, being a light in the world and salty and so forth, at the same time.
cheers.
www.whosoever.org would be a big help to you, I think. The main minister on there is a woman I know named Candace Chellew-Hodge. She is a really cool, knowledgeable woman. Oh, and she's a lesbian. There's a lot of good and helpful reading on this site.
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The5thMary
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Originally posted by Robert Armin:
Back in the 80s I had a friend who chose to be a lesbian as a political statement, and she said many other women were doing the same. I've never asked her about her experience, but she's been happily partnered with a man for a long time now. Equally, I haven't heard of anyone doing that in recent years. Was it a part of 80s feminism, does anyone know?
As far as I know, it started, hot and heavy in the 1970's. It was all the rage of writers like Rita Mae Brown, Jill Johnston, Judy Grahn, etc. And what kills me is that these writers made this big deal about how women wouldn't oppress other women or exploit them. Right. Tell that to my three abusive girlfriends, one of whom tried to kill me! It always made me mad that women "chose" to be lesbian for awhile as some sort of political statement about the evils of inequality and then "chose" to be heterosexual. Just admit you're a damn bisexual and shut up, already. I certainly didn't wake up one morning and say to myself, "Gee, today I feel like wearing that green striped shirt, my favorite blue jeans and oh, yeah, I think I'll be a lesbian!".
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Lyda*Rose
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Paddy: quote:
"Gee, today I feel like wearing that green striped shirt, my favorite blue jeans and oh, yeah, I think I'll be a lesbian!".
![[Killing me]](graemlins/killingme.gif)
Yeah, and just think of the damage they've done by saying women can choose their orientation at will. Way to go, gals! Own goal for the team!
I don't have trouble with young bis who are sorting it all out. I knew a young lady who was quite convinced she was truly and thoroughly gay. Then she met a certain nice young man. ![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif) They were together for five years. Where she went after that, I'm not sure, but I hope she continued in happiness which ever way she swung. She was a good 'un.
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infinite_monkey
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Originally posted by Paddy O'Furniture:
It always made me mad that women "chose" to be lesbian for awhile as some sort of political statement about the evils of inequality and then "chose" to be heterosexual. Just admit you're a damn bisexual and shut up, already.
I'm a damn bisexual. Where's the t-shirt?
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infinite_monkey
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It's entirely true, alas, but still firmly rooted in bollocks. The reality is that, since I find myself attracted to both men and women, I could "choose" to eschew a committed relationship with a wonderful person who happens to be of my gender.
Just the same way that, 50 years ago, a person in many parts of my country was legally required to "choose" to eschew any kind of loving, equal partnership with a wonderful person who wasn't their race.
The choice that I don't get to make, though, is to put the small set of Intimate Bits that society thinks I'm supposed to approve of on the body of the person I actually, wholly, love.
Ah well.
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Never really understood NOT being bi, really - people are wonderful, no point in getting hung up on what shape the package.
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